I plan on telling her exactly how I feel sometime this week.Ok (my lst time tryna ask)
Lets just say you were 18 years old, female, successful, deputy head at an all girl's private school- you have a strong value-base and have never kissed a boy before (but have had several chances) and so you know you are at least bisexual. Now in grade 9 (9th grade or whatever) you meet this woman who becomes your counsel, she is wise and understanding and you simply respect and admire her. But you were young and very immature. You also turn to her because your parents divorced and your mother was addicted to medication i.e. morphine etc, she was a drug addict. You tell her this becuase you feel you can trust her. Sooo this other woman, you say hello, but soon start distancing...things change over 2 years.
Later ay the end of grade 11 (2007) you still sort of feel a %26quot;connection%26quot; to her, not sure what it is but you just look at each other and you know that %26quot;its%26quot; something.
In the past 10months you become VERY successful and you are emotionally very mature. You begin to understand that what you thought was %26quot;admiration%26quot; is actually attraction. Your terrified. The age gap, the gender, the fact that your in school, but you cant keep away from her- she cant keep away from you either (but she hides it better) you have long talks, then you deflect, and have long absenses (because you know you cant get too close to her) once you hold her hand and she doesnt protest. You get into another one of %26quot;those%26quot; (hectically sexually tense convos) and you ask her: %26quot;why do you care about me so much%26quot; and she replies with a: %26quot;well if you dont know teh answer to that BY NOW...%26quot;
Oh and you got a car and its a BMW, she says she hates BMz and you say %26quot;well I'll make you change your mind%26quot; and she says %26quot;well you can try%26quot; and well...you just gotta wait til you have your license but wonder if she knows your intentions.
You battle with yourself the whole year...thinking, what did she mean? why does she look at me this way? brush my arm? maybe Im just a nutcase..this is morally wrong (not becuase you are bi but the age difference and the fact that she is married) all you know is that she is thee most beautiful and intruiging person you have ever met-- and you are just dying to tell her but cant.
So you are matriculating in 2months and not going to see her for a long time because you are leaving town, what do you do?!?!?
Cupid's arrow hurts! Love-struck, 18, with a woman in her 30's. Any comments?
Well I am in a similar situation, I am 24 and my crush is 37, with 2 kids but she is bi (as am I). In an idealistic world I would say it is better to try and fail but I am a wimp and would never tell her how I feel, partily because I dont think she likes me %26quot;like that%26quot; and partily because I am scared of rejection and losing her as a friend
Cupid's arrow hurts! Love-struck, 18, with a woman in her 30's. Any comments?
What do you do? You face the reality of the situation, you admit to yourself that pursuing it will only result in hurt and pain for yourself and/or other people, and you try to find someone who is single, closer to your own age, and who you can form an actual adult relationship with. You acknowledge that it will be painful and difficult at first, but you try to remember that over time the pain will fade, that you WILL find someone else, that the memory of this woman will eventually be just that: A memory.
