What made you go to the doctors?
What was your reaction when you found out?
Did you keep it to yourself? if so for how long?
Did anyone go with you? if so who?
How did having a kid in school change your life?
Did you get stared at? Any good or bad comments? If so what?
Did you stay at school? if so for how long and why?, if not what did you do?
How did the school handle it? Did they try and make you leave?
Are you still in school? or planning to get any kind of degree?
Did you put any kids up for adoption? Did anyone make you?Why did or didn't you?
Did you consider abortion? have it forced on you? or go through with it? What made you decide to do it or keep it?
Did you go through any abuse?
Did you loose the baby? if so how?
Did you want/have a natural birth? or use drugs? did anyone make you go one way or the other? or did you plan on drugs or natural then change your mind?
Did you have a lot of morning sickness?
What could/couldn't you eat? any cravings normal or weird? if so what?
What does your religion feel towards unmarried sex? or teenage pregnancy? does it believe in abortion?
Did you have a lot of support?Any friends stick by you?
Is the dad still around? or apart of the babies life?
How old were you both when you found out and when you had her?
when was your baby born? gender?
How did you get pregnant? (bad condom, careless, rape)
Did you have to get stitches and why?
Did you have to get a cesarean? why?
Any other birth complications?
Any depression experienced before or after?
Did your parents help out?
How did you tell your parents? How did they react?
Once born, how did you support this baby financially?
Did you get married to the babies father? for love or forced? when?
If not together does the dad pay child support?
Any other kids? if so how far apart? how old were you when you had them?
Do you wish you had waited to have kids? when do you think a better time in life is to have kids?
Sorry for the millions of questions lol I am doing an assignment on teenage mums, including myself. I was hoping for genuine answers to start getting ahead. Everything is confidential, and any info would be useful. Who knows could make friends out of this ^^
Can anyone who is, was, or could of been a young mum please answer these questions?
Hey, im 35 weeks pregnant and just turned 20. I know you asked for teenage mums but i thought id try and help out a little anyways (since i only just missed the cut off and i guess 20 is still considered young)
Good luck with your assignment, here goes...
I went to the doctors because i had a lighter period which wasn't normal and had experienced a bloody discharge. I had googled a couple of my symptoms and suspected i was pregnant.
I was in shock when i found out, excited but stunned! Even though i had suspected it i was taken aback to hear the doctor confirm my suspicions.
I told my partner straight away and told my parents- i didn't tell other people until 12 weeks.
Nope, i went in by myself to have the blood test done, although my boyfriend knew i was going.
I had already left school :)
I do get strange, judge mental looks- it doesn't help that i look younger than i am (if im wearing no makeup). People do pass judgment and tell me how young i am to have a baby, they are also not as willing to help me. (Eg i dropped some money at the supermarket and the lady just stood there looking at me knowing it wasn't easy for me to bend down, people dont give up their seat on the train for me ect)
Im planning on going and studying externally or at night to further my education maybe next year or next semester.
I never considered abortion, im not against it but im in a stable relationship and have been with my boyfriend for two years. While it wasnt planned we both wanted it in the future. We are financially secure- own our cars, have a steady income )we are renting now but he had owned two houses previously) and i have support from my family. There was no reason for us to terminate the pregnancy.
I had two threatened miscarriages with the pregnancy and developed something which forced me on bed rest for a few weeks- scary but the baby is fine now.
Im booked into a birthing centre where the only drugs available to be administered are gas and pethidine- so no epidural. In for feting this i get an amazing room and they are much more personal.
I had morning sickness for about 5 weeks.
I havent had cravings but have gone off of a few things- chinese food, meat doesnt really appeal to me and i seem to want to eat all the things your not supposed to have when your pregnant (soft serve, deli meats, seafood ect)
Im not highly religious so that didnt concern me.
I have alot of support, ive lost a lot of friends mainly because i cant go out drinking ect which is disappointing but it makes you realise who your true friends are. My dad isnt around though.
The dad is very excited for the arrival of the baby and cant wait!
I was 19 and he was 27 when we found out.
I had depression before i got pregnant but have necver felt better, im so excited. Its daunting at the same time though. I take care of my body and have a new found respect for it.
My mum is thrilled to be a nana, she had me when she was 21 so she will be a young nana which i think is great.
We dont have any other kids, would like two more but we will be waiting until the first is atleast two before we start trying for the next. We have no immediate plans to get married- its a mutual decision. A baby is a huge commitment and we have other things we would rather do before spending thousands on a wedding. I dont want someone to marry me just because they feel its the right thing to do because im pregnant.
I dont think there is ever an ideal time to have kids- ypur always going to want something else (a better job, better car, to have travelled, more money in the bank ect) but you just have to make the most of it. Just because we are having a baby doesnt mean we have to stop doing everything we love, a baby is supposed to enrich your life not take away from it.
Can anyone who is, was, or could of been a young mum please answer these questions?
My mom made me go, I was 5 months along.
Scared to death.
I told my boyfriend, but didn't tell my mom until i was 5 months. My dad never knew.
My aunt went with me.
I was a senior, so no one at school really knew. I was 17.
If the school would have found out, they would not have let me stay.
I graduated from High School and took some college classes.
I did put my baby up for adoption, I was considered shamed and being an unwed mother was shameful. We were told it would be best for all and that we would get over it. Of course we didn't.This was all in the BSE (baby snatch era). Young women were coerced into giving up the baby so that the familys could save face.
I considered abortion but it was illegal in 1971
I was drugged so that I would not be able to see or hold my baby, then I was immediately taken to the surgical ward so I could not hear the crying babies.
no abuse
Not much morning sickness, but evening sickness was quite bad. I did not crave anything.
No support.
The dad is still around. our daughter was born in jan 1972 and we married in july 1973 and we are still together.
We got pregnant due to stupidity.
I was 17 and he was 18
Our parents said we had to give her up.
Our parents reacted badly.
Giving our daughter up for adoption was a pain that never went away. My boyfriends parents did not think I was good enough for their son. We have been married for 36 years. We found our daughter in 2001. It's been a good reunion. We had a son in 1977.
Sorry if you wanted some younger more current situations.
im 18 btw..
What made you go to the doctors?
i took a pregnancy test and by the time i got my insurance and stuff i was already 22 weeks so i really wanted/needed to go
What was your reaction when you found out?
im not sure i didn't really believe it
Did you keep it to yourself? if so for how long?
at first till about 20 weeks
Did anyone go with you? if so who?
my mom
How did having a kid in school change your life?
im 25 weeks and it has i cant do alot of things pregnant
Did you get stared at? Any good or bad comments? If so what?
yes and nothing bad yet
Did you stay at school? if so for how long and why?, if not what did you do?
yes im in a diploma program so i can go to school when i want..but ill graduate next week
How did the school handle it? Did they try and make you leave?
nope alot of the student in the program are parents
Are you still in school? or planning to get any kind of degree?
yes about to graduate high school but im planning to go to college
Did you put any kids up for adoption? Did anyone make you?Why did or didn't you?
no
Did you consider abortion? have it forced on you? or go through with it? What made you decide to do it or keep it?
no i didn't consider it but at first, the babys father tried to pressured me to get one. i keept it because i love my baby
Did you go through any abuse?
no
Did you loose the baby? if so how?
no
Did you want/have a natural birth? or use drugs? did anyone make you go one way or the other? or did you plan on drugs or natural then change your mind?
i want an epidural
Did you have a lot of morning sickness?
i was sick at first
What could/couldn't you eat? any cravings normal or weird? if so what?
i dont have any crazy cravings
What does your religion feel towards unmarried sex? or teenage pregnancy? does it believe in abortion?
Did you have a lot of support?Any friends stick by you?
yes
Is the dad still around? or apart of the babies life?
i moved about an hour away so we keep in touch and try to meet up
How old were you both when you found out and when you had her?
were both 18
when was your baby born? gender?
boy
How did you get pregnant? (bad condom, careless, rape)
condom
Did you have to get stitches and why?
dk yet
Did you have to get a cesarean? why?
dk yet
Any other birth complications?
nothing yet
Any depression experienced before or after?
no
Did your parents help out?
yes
How did you tell your parents? How did they react?
my mom notice i was getting bigger so i told her and we took a test and she was supportive not one bit mad....tho i thought shed kill me
Once born, how did you support this baby financially?
well have lots of help im sure, but well both have jobs
Did you get married to the babies father? for love or
no
Any other kids? if so how far apart? how old were you when you had them?
no
Do you wish you had waited to have kids? when do you think a better time in life is to have kids?
yes but itll be ok
What made you go to the doctors? I had a positive pregnancy test
What was your reaction when you found out? Exited, nervous, shocked, scared, and so many other emotions lol
Did you keep it to yourself? if so for how long? until after 12 weeks when the risk of miscarriage decreased
Did anyone go with you? if so who? My fiance
How did having a kid in school change your life? I was 19 when pregnant, I had already finished high school when I got pregnant
Did you get stared at? Any good or bad comments? If so what? Ive had many comments, I look younger than I am. I still get them and I will be 20 in April. I once had a lady come up to me and ask why I am not married when pregnant, that was before I was engaged and had a ring. I had one woman tell me I will go to hell and burn, and another old lady said %26quot;it must be hard brining up a child all by myself%26quot; I told her I am in a happy supportive relationship and to butt out lol
Did you stay at school? if so for how long and why?, if not what did you do? N/A
How did the school handle it? Did they try and make you leave? N/A
Are you still in school? or planning to get any kind of degree? yes I will go back to my University studies when bub is older (I am in Australia and Unis are really flexible here)
Did you put any kids up for adoption? Did anyone make you?Why did or didn't you? No I am a legal adult no one can make me do anything
Did you consider abortion? have it forced on you? or go through with it? What made you decide to do it or keep it? NEVER
Did you go through any abuse? no
Did you loose the baby? if so how? no she is a bouncy ten week old now :)
Did you want/have a natural birth? or use drugs? did anyone make you go one way or the other? or did you plan on drugs or natural then change your mind? natural- the doctor when I was stuck at 9cm said to have an epidural so they can speed up labour with a drug, luckily they could not get the epidural in, and before they got a chance to do anything I was already pushing. Oh but I used a lot of gass lol
Did you have a lot of morning sickness? Kind of in the first 3 months
What could/couldn't you eat? any cravings normal or weird? if so what? everything sweet lol
What does your religion feel towards unmarried sex? or teenage pregnancy? does it believe in abortion? who cares lol
Did you have a lot of support?Any friends stick by you? My friends and family were all great :)
Is the dad still around? or apart of the babies life? Yes we are happily engaged and proud parents living together and learning as we go :) always help each other out.
How old were you both when you found out and when you had her? I was just about to turn 19, I was 19 when I had her, he was 20 and is now 21.
when was your baby born? gender? Dec 11th as 6:31am :) Little baby girl
How did you get pregnant? (bad condom, careless, rape) just did
Did you have to get stitches and why? yes but only in my labia so could have been worse.
Did you have to get a cesarean? why? no
Any other birth complications? no
Any depression experienced before or after? no just the normal hormones lol
Did your parents help out? yes they helped us find a nice play to live
How did you tell your parents? How did they react? better then I ever imagined. Very supportive
Once born, how did you support this baby financially? my partner works and we still receive the baby bonus until she is 6 months old
Did you get married to the babies father? for love or forced? when? we will next year, no one should ever force anyone to do that. Its not the 50s anymore lol
If not together does the dad pay child support? N/A
Any other kids? if so how far apart? how old were you when you had them? no, but we are planning to try for another when she is about 2 years old. I want them to be close in age :)
Do you wish you had waited to have kids? when do you think a better time in life is to have kids? No I love her more than life and have never regretted having her.... not for even one moment!!
