I don%26#039;t just mean I don%26#039;t like the surname... I mean it%26#039;s made me miserable and depressed my entire life. It%26#039;s ugly, I hate it and I don%26#039;t identify with it, but above all, I%26#039;m a musician. I know I%26#039;m talented and people tell me that but it%26#039;s an excruciatingly plain name that gets me lost in the crowd, and if I want any success as a musician I need a name with a little sparkle. I%26#039;m not kidding when I say I%26#039;d rather get a root canal every day for the rest of my life than have to answer to the damn ugly surname again.
I don%26#039;t expect people to understand how I feel but I have been miserable all my life because of this hideous name. It%26#039;s more than a matter of I just dislike it. It%26#039;s bothered me and upset me profoundly since I was a tiny child (now I%26#039;m a college grad) and I%26#039;ve struggled to accept it and can%26#039;t. I can%26#039;t be myself with this name.
The first and last names just sound ugly and dissonant together and when a person hears my full name, they would picture a fat, plain looking person.
I have a really common full name, and it upsets me a lot that I don%26#039;t have a unique name to identify only me. I long to have a unique name all my own.
I feel like the last name disassociates me from a huge part of my heritage and identity. I%26#039;m from USA but have Hispanic ancestry mixed with several other things. Even though I%26#039;m from USA, latin culture is half my life and I identify with latin culture... it%26#039;a part of my own heritage and I want so much to have a last name that reflects it. I have the most waspy, all-American name in the world and I feel like the last name detaches me from the Latin culture I love and identify with so much and from which I derive such a profound sense of identity and belonging.
I want to legally change my surname to either my Spanish ancestor%26#039;s surname or my Irish ancestor%26#039;s surname. I feel like I%26#039;m stuck between a rock and a hard place... I%26#039;m miserable because I hate my current surname so much but I%26#039;m afraid to legally change it. I%26#039;m so afraid that the court won%26#039;t allow me to do it and that would just kill me. I can%26#039;t bear to go through life with this hideous name and I%26#039;m terrified to try and change it because I%26#039;m scared I won%26#039;t be able to. It shouldn%26#039;t be so hard to change your surname; if people can change their gender why wouldn%26#039;t there be a similar procedure for a surname?
If the court denies my request, what recourse do I have?
I hate it so much I%26#039;m almost ready to just marry someone, whether I love them or not, just to get rid of it. Maybe there%26#039;s an illegal who needs a green card who would marry me in order to get one... I%26#039;d be doing a good deed, albeit for selfish reasons, but I%26#039;d be helping him and he%26#039;d be helping me out.
However I don%26#039;t want to make a lifelong commitment like marriage. I just want to be rid of the surname! I can%26#039;t bear it any more! Is there any solution?
I have decided to change my surname but I%26#039;m scared there will be no recourse if they deny my request?
They won%26#039;t deny your request. Unless you%26#039;re a felon or are trying to evade debts, they always grant name changes. Don%26#039;t worry about it so much.
I have decided to change my surname but I%26#039;m scared there will be no recourse if they deny my request?
You don%26#039;t want to hear this. You have a case of mis-placed aggression. You blame your lack of success on your name. I have a plain name too. But my family and friends know I%26#039;m anything but plain or average. Being weird is cool, but you don%26#039;t have to have a weird name to be cool. Although Arthur Fonzerelli made it work.
If you want to join the club of %26quot;can you spell that for me again?%26quot; go ahead. But you won%26#039;t find peace in it. You%26#039;ll only upset your family.
Please. Just can the melodrama. Changing your name is completely DIY. Courts don%26#039;t turn people down unless the request is patently offensive or could result in fraud.
Just get off your stage, google name change and your state and do it.
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