Of course all parents love their little ones no matter whether they are boys are girls. But that doesn't mean that while a woman is pregnant they don't secretly hope for a boy or girl. I am not far enough along to know the gender of my baby, and I just hope that it is healthy. What I want to know is if any of you or your partners were disappointed when you discovered the baby's gender. How soon did you get over it and embrace it? And furthermore, were you scared you wouldn't like the baby as much when it was born, or did you change preference immediately?
How exactly did you get over the gender disappointment?
Just curious :)
Your experiences with gender disappointment?
I really wanted a girl. A lot. And so I decided that the only smart thing for me to do would be to find out what I was having early on. I didn't want to give birth to a boy and have my first thought be a disappointed one. I didn't think that would be fair to my son. So I got the ultrasound done at 17 weeks and saw my son. Yes, I was disappointed, but I had several months to come to term (no pun intended) with it, and to plan, buy things, decorate, etc. After a while, it wasn't a big deal anymore - and then when he was born, it mattered not at all. Now he's two and I can't imagine having had a better baby than he is! So what if all the clothing stores have twice as many options for girls than for boys? My son is beautiful and smart and healthy and silly and perfect. So he can't wear cute little frilly dresses - he looks pretty freaking adorable in his khakis and deck shoes. :) I think in the end, if you want one and you get another, oh well. There's nothing you can actually do about it, so get over it and love the child! Still - I will be checking the gender of any second or third babies that come along. I really need to know these things ahead of time!
Your experiences with gender disappointment?
with both of my pregnancies we did not find out the sex of the baby. I figured 40 wks isn't that long of a time to wait to find out the sex of this baby, compared to their entire life.
I know people who are disappointed to hear what the sex of their baby is, and I wonder how? why? When so many things could be wrong with babies (born with diseases or conditions) how could they be so upset about the sex of the baby.
Good Luck!! I hope you have a healthy baby! whether its a boy .. or a girl!!
:-)
I was thrilled when I found out that I was having girls. My husband is not one of these super macho men who wanted a son to carry on the family name or push into sports. He loves his daughters just as much as he would have a son.
If I have to be totally honest, I wanted girls. Both my husband and I are not exactly the tallest people and I felt it would be easier for a girl to be petite than for a boy to be short. And when I was pregnant with my second daughter, I figured that it would just be easier to have two girls, I could re-use a lot of clothing, I could even dress them alike if I was so inclined and we wouldn't have to move since they could share a room.
For me, all that mattered was that it was a healthy baby.
I was a little disapointed when I found out that my first was a girl. Not that I really wanted a boy that much. I guess the problem was I was scared that I wouldn't be able to raise a girl as easily. I have always been more of a tom-boy. Definately not a girly, girl. I like to watch football and hockey and had I been more coordinated I would have likely played both. I hate pink. Never had my nails done, and never will etc.
So I was a bit disappointed I guess. But I just decided from the beginning- no pink. I never bought her anything pink and I took back every gift that I got that was pink or donated it to charity. The Salvation Army got lots of nice pink clothes that year from me that is for sure. But, slowly I realized that I could do it. That the sex didn't matter. I can't say when I realized it would be fine, but it did happen before she was born.
My husband didn't care either way. He realized he was ready for a child when he realized that he didn't care at all. Before that he really wanted a little girl.
Now I am pregnant with baby #2. I don't know the sex yet. I kind of think I would rather have another girl now. I guess I just don't want to buy lots more clothes (silly reason isn't it) But I don't really care this time around.
Saturday 24 September 2011
Can anyone who is, was, or could of been a young mum please answer these questions?
What made you go to the doctors?
What was your reaction when you found out?
Did you keep it to yourself? if so for how long?
Did anyone go with you? if so who?
How did having a kid in school change your life?
Did you get stared at? Any good or bad comments? If so what?
Did you stay at school? if so for how long and why?, if not what did you do?
How did the school handle it? Did they try and make you leave?
Are you still in school? or planning to get any kind of degree?
Did you put any kids up for adoption? Did anyone make you?Why did or didn't you?
Did you consider abortion? have it forced on you? or go through with it? What made you decide to do it or keep it?
Did you go through any abuse?
Did you loose the baby? if so how?
Did you want/have a natural birth? or use drugs? did anyone make you go one way or the other? or did you plan on drugs or natural then change your mind?
Did you have a lot of morning sickness?
What could/couldn't you eat? any cravings normal or weird? if so what?
What does your religion feel towards unmarried sex? or teenage pregnancy? does it believe in abortion?
Did you have a lot of support?Any friends stick by you?
Is the dad still around? or apart of the babies life?
How old were you both when you found out and when you had her?
when was your baby born? gender?
How did you get pregnant? (bad condom, careless, rape)
Did you have to get stitches and why?
Did you have to get a cesarean? why?
Any other birth complications?
Any depression experienced before or after?
Did your parents help out?
How did you tell your parents? How did they react?
Once born, how did you support this baby financially?
Did you get married to the babies father? for love or forced? when?
If not together does the dad pay child support?
Any other kids? if so how far apart? how old were you when you had them?
Do you wish you had waited to have kids? when do you think a better time in life is to have kids?
Sorry for the millions of questions lol I am doing an assignment on teenage mums, including myself. I was hoping for genuine answers to start getting ahead. Everything is confidential, and any info would be useful. Who knows could make friends out of this ^^
Can anyone who is, was, or could of been a young mum please answer these questions?
Hey, im 35 weeks pregnant and just turned 20. I know you asked for teenage mums but i thought id try and help out a little anyways (since i only just missed the cut off and i guess 20 is still considered young)
Good luck with your assignment, here goes...
I went to the doctors because i had a lighter period which wasn't normal and had experienced a bloody discharge. I had googled a couple of my symptoms and suspected i was pregnant.
I was in shock when i found out, excited but stunned! Even though i had suspected it i was taken aback to hear the doctor confirm my suspicions.
I told my partner straight away and told my parents- i didn't tell other people until 12 weeks.
Nope, i went in by myself to have the blood test done, although my boyfriend knew i was going.
I had already left school :)
I do get strange, judge mental looks- it doesn't help that i look younger than i am (if im wearing no makeup). People do pass judgment and tell me how young i am to have a baby, they are also not as willing to help me. (Eg i dropped some money at the supermarket and the lady just stood there looking at me knowing it wasn't easy for me to bend down, people dont give up their seat on the train for me ect)
Im planning on going and studying externally or at night to further my education maybe next year or next semester.
I never considered abortion, im not against it but im in a stable relationship and have been with my boyfriend for two years. While it wasnt planned we both wanted it in the future. We are financially secure- own our cars, have a steady income )we are renting now but he had owned two houses previously) and i have support from my family. There was no reason for us to terminate the pregnancy.
I had two threatened miscarriages with the pregnancy and developed something which forced me on bed rest for a few weeks- scary but the baby is fine now.
Im booked into a birthing centre where the only drugs available to be administered are gas and pethidine- so no epidural. In for feting this i get an amazing room and they are much more personal.
I had morning sickness for about 5 weeks.
I havent had cravings but have gone off of a few things- chinese food, meat doesnt really appeal to me and i seem to want to eat all the things your not supposed to have when your pregnant (soft serve, deli meats, seafood ect)
Im not highly religious so that didnt concern me.
I have alot of support, ive lost a lot of friends mainly because i cant go out drinking ect which is disappointing but it makes you realise who your true friends are. My dad isnt around though.
The dad is very excited for the arrival of the baby and cant wait!
I was 19 and he was 27 when we found out.
I had depression before i got pregnant but have necver felt better, im so excited. Its daunting at the same time though. I take care of my body and have a new found respect for it.
My mum is thrilled to be a nana, she had me when she was 21 so she will be a young nana which i think is great.
We dont have any other kids, would like two more but we will be waiting until the first is atleast two before we start trying for the next. We have no immediate plans to get married- its a mutual decision. A baby is a huge commitment and we have other things we would rather do before spending thousands on a wedding. I dont want someone to marry me just because they feel its the right thing to do because im pregnant.
I dont think there is ever an ideal time to have kids- ypur always going to want something else (a better job, better car, to have travelled, more money in the bank ect) but you just have to make the most of it. Just because we are having a baby doesnt mean we have to stop doing everything we love, a baby is supposed to enrich your life not take away from it.
Can anyone who is, was, or could of been a young mum please answer these questions?
My mom made me go, I was 5 months along.
Scared to death.
I told my boyfriend, but didn't tell my mom until i was 5 months. My dad never knew.
My aunt went with me.
I was a senior, so no one at school really knew. I was 17.
If the school would have found out, they would not have let me stay.
I graduated from High School and took some college classes.
I did put my baby up for adoption, I was considered shamed and being an unwed mother was shameful. We were told it would be best for all and that we would get over it. Of course we didn't.This was all in the BSE (baby snatch era). Young women were coerced into giving up the baby so that the familys could save face.
I considered abortion but it was illegal in 1971
I was drugged so that I would not be able to see or hold my baby, then I was immediately taken to the surgical ward so I could not hear the crying babies.
no abuse
Not much morning sickness, but evening sickness was quite bad. I did not crave anything.
No support.
The dad is still around. our daughter was born in jan 1972 and we married in july 1973 and we are still together.
We got pregnant due to stupidity.
I was 17 and he was 18
Our parents said we had to give her up.
Our parents reacted badly.
Giving our daughter up for adoption was a pain that never went away. My boyfriends parents did not think I was good enough for their son. We have been married for 36 years. We found our daughter in 2001. It's been a good reunion. We had a son in 1977.
Sorry if you wanted some younger more current situations.
im 18 btw..
What made you go to the doctors?
i took a pregnancy test and by the time i got my insurance and stuff i was already 22 weeks so i really wanted/needed to go
What was your reaction when you found out?
im not sure i didn't really believe it
Did you keep it to yourself? if so for how long?
at first till about 20 weeks
Did anyone go with you? if so who?
my mom
How did having a kid in school change your life?
im 25 weeks and it has i cant do alot of things pregnant
Did you get stared at? Any good or bad comments? If so what?
yes and nothing bad yet
Did you stay at school? if so for how long and why?, if not what did you do?
yes im in a diploma program so i can go to school when i want..but ill graduate next week
How did the school handle it? Did they try and make you leave?
nope alot of the student in the program are parents
Are you still in school? or planning to get any kind of degree?
yes about to graduate high school but im planning to go to college
Did you put any kids up for adoption? Did anyone make you?Why did or didn't you?
no
Did you consider abortion? have it forced on you? or go through with it? What made you decide to do it or keep it?
no i didn't consider it but at first, the babys father tried to pressured me to get one. i keept it because i love my baby
Did you go through any abuse?
no
Did you loose the baby? if so how?
no
Did you want/have a natural birth? or use drugs? did anyone make you go one way or the other? or did you plan on drugs or natural then change your mind?
i want an epidural
Did you have a lot of morning sickness?
i was sick at first
What could/couldn't you eat? any cravings normal or weird? if so what?
i dont have any crazy cravings
What does your religion feel towards unmarried sex? or teenage pregnancy? does it believe in abortion?
Did you have a lot of support?Any friends stick by you?
yes
Is the dad still around? or apart of the babies life?
i moved about an hour away so we keep in touch and try to meet up
How old were you both when you found out and when you had her?
were both 18
when was your baby born? gender?
boy
How did you get pregnant? (bad condom, careless, rape)
condom
Did you have to get stitches and why?
dk yet
Did you have to get a cesarean? why?
dk yet
Any other birth complications?
nothing yet
Any depression experienced before or after?
no
Did your parents help out?
yes
How did you tell your parents? How did they react?
my mom notice i was getting bigger so i told her and we took a test and she was supportive not one bit mad....tho i thought shed kill me
Once born, how did you support this baby financially?
well have lots of help im sure, but well both have jobs
Did you get married to the babies father? for love or
no
Any other kids? if so how far apart? how old were you when you had them?
no
Do you wish you had waited to have kids? when do you think a better time in life is to have kids?
yes but itll be ok
What made you go to the doctors? I had a positive pregnancy test
What was your reaction when you found out? Exited, nervous, shocked, scared, and so many other emotions lol
Did you keep it to yourself? if so for how long? until after 12 weeks when the risk of miscarriage decreased
Did anyone go with you? if so who? My fiance
How did having a kid in school change your life? I was 19 when pregnant, I had already finished high school when I got pregnant
Did you get stared at? Any good or bad comments? If so what? Ive had many comments, I look younger than I am. I still get them and I will be 20 in April. I once had a lady come up to me and ask why I am not married when pregnant, that was before I was engaged and had a ring. I had one woman tell me I will go to hell and burn, and another old lady said %26quot;it must be hard brining up a child all by myself%26quot; I told her I am in a happy supportive relationship and to butt out lol
Did you stay at school? if so for how long and why?, if not what did you do? N/A
How did the school handle it? Did they try and make you leave? N/A
Are you still in school? or planning to get any kind of degree? yes I will go back to my University studies when bub is older (I am in Australia and Unis are really flexible here)
Did you put any kids up for adoption? Did anyone make you?Why did or didn't you? No I am a legal adult no one can make me do anything
Did you consider abortion? have it forced on you? or go through with it? What made you decide to do it or keep it? NEVER
Did you go through any abuse? no
Did you loose the baby? if so how? no she is a bouncy ten week old now :)
Did you want/have a natural birth? or use drugs? did anyone make you go one way or the other? or did you plan on drugs or natural then change your mind? natural- the doctor when I was stuck at 9cm said to have an epidural so they can speed up labour with a drug, luckily they could not get the epidural in, and before they got a chance to do anything I was already pushing. Oh but I used a lot of gass lol
Did you have a lot of morning sickness? Kind of in the first 3 months
What could/couldn't you eat? any cravings normal or weird? if so what? everything sweet lol
What does your religion feel towards unmarried sex? or teenage pregnancy? does it believe in abortion? who cares lol
Did you have a lot of support?Any friends stick by you? My friends and family were all great :)
Is the dad still around? or apart of the babies life? Yes we are happily engaged and proud parents living together and learning as we go :) always help each other out.
How old were you both when you found out and when you had her? I was just about to turn 19, I was 19 when I had her, he was 20 and is now 21.
when was your baby born? gender? Dec 11th as 6:31am :) Little baby girl
How did you get pregnant? (bad condom, careless, rape) just did
Did you have to get stitches and why? yes but only in my labia so could have been worse.
Did you have to get a cesarean? why? no
Any other birth complications? no
Any depression experienced before or after? no just the normal hormones lol
Did your parents help out? yes they helped us find a nice play to live
How did you tell your parents? How did they react? better then I ever imagined. Very supportive
Once born, how did you support this baby financially? my partner works and we still receive the baby bonus until she is 6 months old
Did you get married to the babies father? for love or forced? when? we will next year, no one should ever force anyone to do that. Its not the 50s anymore lol
If not together does the dad pay child support? N/A
Any other kids? if so how far apart? how old were you when you had them? no, but we are planning to try for another when she is about 2 years old. I want them to be close in age :)
Do you wish you had waited to have kids? when do you think a better time in life is to have kids? No I love her more than life and have never regretted having her.... not for even one moment!!
What was your reaction when you found out?
Did you keep it to yourself? if so for how long?
Did anyone go with you? if so who?
How did having a kid in school change your life?
Did you get stared at? Any good or bad comments? If so what?
Did you stay at school? if so for how long and why?, if not what did you do?
How did the school handle it? Did they try and make you leave?
Are you still in school? or planning to get any kind of degree?
Did you put any kids up for adoption? Did anyone make you?Why did or didn't you?
Did you consider abortion? have it forced on you? or go through with it? What made you decide to do it or keep it?
Did you go through any abuse?
Did you loose the baby? if so how?
Did you want/have a natural birth? or use drugs? did anyone make you go one way or the other? or did you plan on drugs or natural then change your mind?
Did you have a lot of morning sickness?
What could/couldn't you eat? any cravings normal or weird? if so what?
What does your religion feel towards unmarried sex? or teenage pregnancy? does it believe in abortion?
Did you have a lot of support?Any friends stick by you?
Is the dad still around? or apart of the babies life?
How old were you both when you found out and when you had her?
when was your baby born? gender?
How did you get pregnant? (bad condom, careless, rape)
Did you have to get stitches and why?
Did you have to get a cesarean? why?
Any other birth complications?
Any depression experienced before or after?
Did your parents help out?
How did you tell your parents? How did they react?
Once born, how did you support this baby financially?
Did you get married to the babies father? for love or forced? when?
If not together does the dad pay child support?
Any other kids? if so how far apart? how old were you when you had them?
Do you wish you had waited to have kids? when do you think a better time in life is to have kids?
Sorry for the millions of questions lol I am doing an assignment on teenage mums, including myself. I was hoping for genuine answers to start getting ahead. Everything is confidential, and any info would be useful. Who knows could make friends out of this ^^
Can anyone who is, was, or could of been a young mum please answer these questions?
Hey, im 35 weeks pregnant and just turned 20. I know you asked for teenage mums but i thought id try and help out a little anyways (since i only just missed the cut off and i guess 20 is still considered young)
Good luck with your assignment, here goes...
I went to the doctors because i had a lighter period which wasn't normal and had experienced a bloody discharge. I had googled a couple of my symptoms and suspected i was pregnant.
I was in shock when i found out, excited but stunned! Even though i had suspected it i was taken aback to hear the doctor confirm my suspicions.
I told my partner straight away and told my parents- i didn't tell other people until 12 weeks.
Nope, i went in by myself to have the blood test done, although my boyfriend knew i was going.
I had already left school :)
I do get strange, judge mental looks- it doesn't help that i look younger than i am (if im wearing no makeup). People do pass judgment and tell me how young i am to have a baby, they are also not as willing to help me. (Eg i dropped some money at the supermarket and the lady just stood there looking at me knowing it wasn't easy for me to bend down, people dont give up their seat on the train for me ect)
Im planning on going and studying externally or at night to further my education maybe next year or next semester.
I never considered abortion, im not against it but im in a stable relationship and have been with my boyfriend for two years. While it wasnt planned we both wanted it in the future. We are financially secure- own our cars, have a steady income )we are renting now but he had owned two houses previously) and i have support from my family. There was no reason for us to terminate the pregnancy.
I had two threatened miscarriages with the pregnancy and developed something which forced me on bed rest for a few weeks- scary but the baby is fine now.
Im booked into a birthing centre where the only drugs available to be administered are gas and pethidine- so no epidural. In for feting this i get an amazing room and they are much more personal.
I had morning sickness for about 5 weeks.
I havent had cravings but have gone off of a few things- chinese food, meat doesnt really appeal to me and i seem to want to eat all the things your not supposed to have when your pregnant (soft serve, deli meats, seafood ect)
Im not highly religious so that didnt concern me.
I have alot of support, ive lost a lot of friends mainly because i cant go out drinking ect which is disappointing but it makes you realise who your true friends are. My dad isnt around though.
The dad is very excited for the arrival of the baby and cant wait!
I was 19 and he was 27 when we found out.
I had depression before i got pregnant but have necver felt better, im so excited. Its daunting at the same time though. I take care of my body and have a new found respect for it.
My mum is thrilled to be a nana, she had me when she was 21 so she will be a young nana which i think is great.
We dont have any other kids, would like two more but we will be waiting until the first is atleast two before we start trying for the next. We have no immediate plans to get married- its a mutual decision. A baby is a huge commitment and we have other things we would rather do before spending thousands on a wedding. I dont want someone to marry me just because they feel its the right thing to do because im pregnant.
I dont think there is ever an ideal time to have kids- ypur always going to want something else (a better job, better car, to have travelled, more money in the bank ect) but you just have to make the most of it. Just because we are having a baby doesnt mean we have to stop doing everything we love, a baby is supposed to enrich your life not take away from it.
Can anyone who is, was, or could of been a young mum please answer these questions?
My mom made me go, I was 5 months along.
Scared to death.
I told my boyfriend, but didn't tell my mom until i was 5 months. My dad never knew.
My aunt went with me.
I was a senior, so no one at school really knew. I was 17.
If the school would have found out, they would not have let me stay.
I graduated from High School and took some college classes.
I did put my baby up for adoption, I was considered shamed and being an unwed mother was shameful. We were told it would be best for all and that we would get over it. Of course we didn't.This was all in the BSE (baby snatch era). Young women were coerced into giving up the baby so that the familys could save face.
I considered abortion but it was illegal in 1971
I was drugged so that I would not be able to see or hold my baby, then I was immediately taken to the surgical ward so I could not hear the crying babies.
no abuse
Not much morning sickness, but evening sickness was quite bad. I did not crave anything.
No support.
The dad is still around. our daughter was born in jan 1972 and we married in july 1973 and we are still together.
We got pregnant due to stupidity.
I was 17 and he was 18
Our parents said we had to give her up.
Our parents reacted badly.
Giving our daughter up for adoption was a pain that never went away. My boyfriends parents did not think I was good enough for their son. We have been married for 36 years. We found our daughter in 2001. It's been a good reunion. We had a son in 1977.
Sorry if you wanted some younger more current situations.
im 18 btw..
What made you go to the doctors?
i took a pregnancy test and by the time i got my insurance and stuff i was already 22 weeks so i really wanted/needed to go
What was your reaction when you found out?
im not sure i didn't really believe it
Did you keep it to yourself? if so for how long?
at first till about 20 weeks
Did anyone go with you? if so who?
my mom
How did having a kid in school change your life?
im 25 weeks and it has i cant do alot of things pregnant
Did you get stared at? Any good or bad comments? If so what?
yes and nothing bad yet
Did you stay at school? if so for how long and why?, if not what did you do?
yes im in a diploma program so i can go to school when i want..but ill graduate next week
How did the school handle it? Did they try and make you leave?
nope alot of the student in the program are parents
Are you still in school? or planning to get any kind of degree?
yes about to graduate high school but im planning to go to college
Did you put any kids up for adoption? Did anyone make you?Why did or didn't you?
no
Did you consider abortion? have it forced on you? or go through with it? What made you decide to do it or keep it?
no i didn't consider it but at first, the babys father tried to pressured me to get one. i keept it because i love my baby
Did you go through any abuse?
no
Did you loose the baby? if so how?
no
Did you want/have a natural birth? or use drugs? did anyone make you go one way or the other? or did you plan on drugs or natural then change your mind?
i want an epidural
Did you have a lot of morning sickness?
i was sick at first
What could/couldn't you eat? any cravings normal or weird? if so what?
i dont have any crazy cravings
What does your religion feel towards unmarried sex? or teenage pregnancy? does it believe in abortion?
Did you have a lot of support?Any friends stick by you?
yes
Is the dad still around? or apart of the babies life?
i moved about an hour away so we keep in touch and try to meet up
How old were you both when you found out and when you had her?
were both 18
when was your baby born? gender?
boy
How did you get pregnant? (bad condom, careless, rape)
condom
Did you have to get stitches and why?
dk yet
Did you have to get a cesarean? why?
dk yet
Any other birth complications?
nothing yet
Any depression experienced before or after?
no
Did your parents help out?
yes
How did you tell your parents? How did they react?
my mom notice i was getting bigger so i told her and we took a test and she was supportive not one bit mad....tho i thought shed kill me
Once born, how did you support this baby financially?
well have lots of help im sure, but well both have jobs
Did you get married to the babies father? for love or
no
Any other kids? if so how far apart? how old were you when you had them?
no
Do you wish you had waited to have kids? when do you think a better time in life is to have kids?
yes but itll be ok
What made you go to the doctors? I had a positive pregnancy test
What was your reaction when you found out? Exited, nervous, shocked, scared, and so many other emotions lol
Did you keep it to yourself? if so for how long? until after 12 weeks when the risk of miscarriage decreased
Did anyone go with you? if so who? My fiance
How did having a kid in school change your life? I was 19 when pregnant, I had already finished high school when I got pregnant
Did you get stared at? Any good or bad comments? If so what? Ive had many comments, I look younger than I am. I still get them and I will be 20 in April. I once had a lady come up to me and ask why I am not married when pregnant, that was before I was engaged and had a ring. I had one woman tell me I will go to hell and burn, and another old lady said %26quot;it must be hard brining up a child all by myself%26quot; I told her I am in a happy supportive relationship and to butt out lol
Did you stay at school? if so for how long and why?, if not what did you do? N/A
How did the school handle it? Did they try and make you leave? N/A
Are you still in school? or planning to get any kind of degree? yes I will go back to my University studies when bub is older (I am in Australia and Unis are really flexible here)
Did you put any kids up for adoption? Did anyone make you?Why did or didn't you? No I am a legal adult no one can make me do anything
Did you consider abortion? have it forced on you? or go through with it? What made you decide to do it or keep it? NEVER
Did you go through any abuse? no
Did you loose the baby? if so how? no she is a bouncy ten week old now :)
Did you want/have a natural birth? or use drugs? did anyone make you go one way or the other? or did you plan on drugs or natural then change your mind? natural- the doctor when I was stuck at 9cm said to have an epidural so they can speed up labour with a drug, luckily they could not get the epidural in, and before they got a chance to do anything I was already pushing. Oh but I used a lot of gass lol
Did you have a lot of morning sickness? Kind of in the first 3 months
What could/couldn't you eat? any cravings normal or weird? if so what? everything sweet lol
What does your religion feel towards unmarried sex? or teenage pregnancy? does it believe in abortion? who cares lol
Did you have a lot of support?Any friends stick by you? My friends and family were all great :)
Is the dad still around? or apart of the babies life? Yes we are happily engaged and proud parents living together and learning as we go :) always help each other out.
How old were you both when you found out and when you had her? I was just about to turn 19, I was 19 when I had her, he was 20 and is now 21.
when was your baby born? gender? Dec 11th as 6:31am :) Little baby girl
How did you get pregnant? (bad condom, careless, rape) just did
Did you have to get stitches and why? yes but only in my labia so could have been worse.
Did you have to get a cesarean? why? no
Any other birth complications? no
Any depression experienced before or after? no just the normal hormones lol
Did your parents help out? yes they helped us find a nice play to live
How did you tell your parents? How did they react? better then I ever imagined. Very supportive
Once born, how did you support this baby financially? my partner works and we still receive the baby bonus until she is 6 months old
Did you get married to the babies father? for love or forced? when? we will next year, no one should ever force anyone to do that. Its not the 50s anymore lol
If not together does the dad pay child support? N/A
Any other kids? if so how far apart? how old were you when you had them? no, but we are planning to try for another when she is about 2 years old. I want them to be close in age :)
Do you wish you had waited to have kids? when do you think a better time in life is to have kids? No I love her more than life and have never regretted having her.... not for even one moment!!
How well is your hygien?
Do you shower everyday ?
Brush and floss ?
wash your hands after going to bathroom ?
change underwear and socks daily ?
use deorderant and perfume/cologne ?
state your age . gender .
How well is your hygien?
twice
twice a day floss once
always
of course
deodarant I don't smell I hate when people use too much perfume its like they're hiding something
18 F
How well is your hygien?
Do you shower everyday ? YESSSS
Brush and floss ? Brush almost everyday/ floss monthly
wash your hands after going to bathroom ? DUH! thats gross.
change underwear and socks daily ? DUH.
use deorderant and perfume/cologne ?if i don't forget but im 12
state your age . gender . Girl
yes but i don't wash my hair everyday
brush twice everyday don't floss a lot
duh yes i wash my hands
since i don't waer socks everyday... lol.... change underwear duh
yes
13 girl
Female 37. I do everything that is necessary to stay clean and healthy and I always throw in a little something extra to pamper myself.
Do you shower everyday ?..depends on my mood
Brush and floss ? brush yes..floss no am lazy
wash your hands after going to bathroom ? offcourse
change underwear and socks daily ? undearwear no ..socks yes
use deorderant and perfume/cologne ? deorderent
state your age . gender...23..mmultiple tables squirrel stalking
Brush and floss ?
wash your hands after going to bathroom ?
change underwear and socks daily ?
use deorderant and perfume/cologne ?
state your age . gender .
How well is your hygien?
twice
twice a day floss once
always
of course
deodarant I don't smell I hate when people use too much perfume its like they're hiding something
18 F
How well is your hygien?
Do you shower everyday ? YESSSS
Brush and floss ? Brush almost everyday/ floss monthly
wash your hands after going to bathroom ? DUH! thats gross.
change underwear and socks daily ? DUH.
use deorderant and perfume/cologne ?if i don't forget but im 12
state your age . gender . Girl
yes but i don't wash my hair everyday
brush twice everyday don't floss a lot
duh yes i wash my hands
since i don't waer socks everyday... lol.... change underwear duh
yes
13 girl
Female 37. I do everything that is necessary to stay clean and healthy and I always throw in a little something extra to pamper myself.
Do you shower everyday ?..depends on my mood
Brush and floss ? brush yes..floss no am lazy
wash your hands after going to bathroom ? offcourse
change underwear and socks daily ? undearwear no ..socks yes
use deorderant and perfume/cologne ? deorderent
state your age . gender...23..m
How to explain to people that genitals =/= gender?
Y!A deleted this question the first time for some unknown reason.
Yeah, I'm FTM trans, and I get so much bs for it.
%26quot;You're a girl, act more like one.%26quot;
%26quot;You're not a boy.%26quot;
%26quot;You have a vagina and boobs, you're not a boy, you're a girl.%26quot;(as if telling me a lie would make me believe it)
%26quot;God gave you this body, he wants you to enjoy it. Stop trying to change what god gave you.%26quot;(which I think is ironic because the first person who said it to me had relaxer and hair dye in her hair, glasses, her ears were pierced, and I'm pretty sure that all of those count as slightly changing your body. Hey, %26quot;god%26quot; gave it to you, don't change it, right? /sarcasm)
%26quot;I don't want you to be miserable, stay a girl, because you ARE one.%26quot; apparently trying to be something i'm not is going to make me not miserable when i die? heck, i'm miserable right now, and this is the only life i get and i'd LOVE to enjoy it without my sex getting in the way. it's like saying all gay people are going to be happy pretending to be straight. lgbt doesn't work that way.
is there a way to explain to these people that i'm far from female?
How to explain to people that genitals =/= gender?
Ask them point blank:
%26quot;Without pointing to your body or showing me your birth certificate, how do you know what your gender is?%26quot;
If they're honest they'll say %26quot;I just know%26quot;. To which you reply: %26quot;It's the same for me.%26quot;
Other than that I don't know a good way to explain it in a quick exchange.
How to explain to people that genitals =/= gender?
Get a new group of friends and be yourself. What others think of you means nothing. Although I like you.
until I turn you over and check I won't comment on gender
Haha. Funny thing, I always have the other problem. From kindergarten on, people have stopped me in the girl's bathroom and asked, %26quot;are you a boy?%26quot; Likewise, people who hear my voice on the phone ask to make sure it's really me (cos phones make my voice sound really high-pitched). Even friends would always make jokes about me being %26quot;such a boy%26quot; or %26quot;like their boyfriends%26quot;. All this was before I realized that wanting to be a boy was called--word of the day--transsexualism.
Try explaining it with your actions instead of your words. If you've ever seen internet wars, you'll notice that no one ever wins, despite long and detailed retorts. The same is true in real life. So just live as you want to and take all comments in stride. How you live your life should be answer enough for you and those around you.
What for ?
The people who give you crap are probably not interested in learning. Some people, however, are just confused and need to be set straight(:P). For people who are genuinely interested in your wellbeing and want to learn, the first thing you have to do is impress on them that gender is so much more complex than most people take for granted.
The explanation I use works best if you have a couple minutes and some paper, but it's the fastest and most thorough explanation I've found so far.
Anthropologically speaking, gender, which we generally think of as one thing, is actually a combination of 3 basic parts: 1)Biological sex, 2)internal/mental sex, and 3)gender role.
for each of these things there is a sliding scale. Most people fall towards one end or another, but there are some (intersexed people, for example) who fall somewhere in between on one or several.
For most people, all three more or less match up, but some have 1 that is out of sync with the rest. If 3 doesn't match up with 1 and 2, it's pretty easy to deal with and generally presents few problems to the person. Some butch women, for example, might have a female body and identify as female but take on a societal role that is male.
In a transsexual, however, 1 and 2 don't match. This is a problem because the two work very closely together, and when they are out of sync it creates gender dysphoria, which will (as you know) persistently make you miserable until one of them conforms to the other. We don't have a way of changing 2, so it has to be 1. 3 can fall anywhere along the scale.
Erm, sorry about the essay, it works better drawn out, I promise.
well first off genitals dont equal gender .
genetals you have between your legs while gender is between your ears
Genitalia and sexual characteristics determine gender. However, your sociological gender can still be male. You can do/act however you want but you are biologically female all the way down to the chromosomes.
As for the people that say you shouldn't change what God gave you, they are just hypocrites and everyone does it one way or another.
Yeah, I'm FTM trans, and I get so much bs for it.
%26quot;You're a girl, act more like one.%26quot;
%26quot;You're not a boy.%26quot;
%26quot;You have a vagina and boobs, you're not a boy, you're a girl.%26quot;(as if telling me a lie would make me believe it)
%26quot;God gave you this body, he wants you to enjoy it. Stop trying to change what god gave you.%26quot;(which I think is ironic because the first person who said it to me had relaxer and hair dye in her hair, glasses, her ears were pierced, and I'm pretty sure that all of those count as slightly changing your body. Hey, %26quot;god%26quot; gave it to you, don't change it, right? /sarcasm)
%26quot;I don't want you to be miserable, stay a girl, because you ARE one.%26quot; apparently trying to be something i'm not is going to make me not miserable when i die? heck, i'm miserable right now, and this is the only life i get and i'd LOVE to enjoy it without my sex getting in the way. it's like saying all gay people are going to be happy pretending to be straight. lgbt doesn't work that way.
is there a way to explain to these people that i'm far from female?
How to explain to people that genitals =/= gender?
Ask them point blank:
%26quot;Without pointing to your body or showing me your birth certificate, how do you know what your gender is?%26quot;
If they're honest they'll say %26quot;I just know%26quot;. To which you reply: %26quot;It's the same for me.%26quot;
Other than that I don't know a good way to explain it in a quick exchange.
How to explain to people that genitals =/= gender?
Get a new group of friends and be yourself. What others think of you means nothing. Although I like you.
until I turn you over and check I won't comment on gender
Haha. Funny thing, I always have the other problem. From kindergarten on, people have stopped me in the girl's bathroom and asked, %26quot;are you a boy?%26quot; Likewise, people who hear my voice on the phone ask to make sure it's really me (cos phones make my voice sound really high-pitched). Even friends would always make jokes about me being %26quot;such a boy%26quot; or %26quot;like their boyfriends%26quot;. All this was before I realized that wanting to be a boy was called--word of the day--transsexualism.
Try explaining it with your actions instead of your words. If you've ever seen internet wars, you'll notice that no one ever wins, despite long and detailed retorts. The same is true in real life. So just live as you want to and take all comments in stride. How you live your life should be answer enough for you and those around you.
What for ?
The people who give you crap are probably not interested in learning. Some people, however, are just confused and need to be set straight(:P). For people who are genuinely interested in your wellbeing and want to learn, the first thing you have to do is impress on them that gender is so much more complex than most people take for granted.
The explanation I use works best if you have a couple minutes and some paper, but it's the fastest and most thorough explanation I've found so far.
Anthropologically speaking, gender, which we generally think of as one thing, is actually a combination of 3 basic parts: 1)Biological sex, 2)internal/mental sex, and 3)gender role.
for each of these things there is a sliding scale. Most people fall towards one end or another, but there are some (intersexed people, for example) who fall somewhere in between on one or several.
For most people, all three more or less match up, but some have 1 that is out of sync with the rest. If 3 doesn't match up with 1 and 2, it's pretty easy to deal with and generally presents few problems to the person. Some butch women, for example, might have a female body and identify as female but take on a societal role that is male.
In a transsexual, however, 1 and 2 don't match. This is a problem because the two work very closely together, and when they are out of sync it creates gender dysphoria, which will (as you know) persistently make you miserable until one of them conforms to the other. We don't have a way of changing 2, so it has to be 1. 3 can fall anywhere along the scale.
Erm, sorry about the essay, it works better drawn out, I promise.
well first off genitals dont equal gender .
genetals you have between your legs while gender is between your ears
Genitalia and sexual characteristics determine gender. However, your sociological gender can still be male. You can do/act however you want but you are biologically female all the way down to the chromosomes.
As for the people that say you shouldn't change what God gave you, they are just hypocrites and everyone does it one way or another.
Changes in dream life?
Hello. I am a graduate student in a Clinical Counseling program, and I'm writing a paper about changes in the tone and content of dreams over the life-cycle. If you would just take a few moments to answer the following few questions for me in as much or as little detail as you'd like, it would be very helpful to me and I would be deeply grateful. If you see that a lot of people have answered, please don't let that hold you back; I need as much data as I can get.
The questions I would like you to answer are very simple:
1) What is your age?
2) What is your gender?
3) How have your dreams changed over your lifetime, from the earliest ones you can remember to the one you had last?
Again, you can answer as briefly or at as much length as you like.
Thank you very much for your help!!!
Changes in dream life?
For me, personally, my dream sequences have always been mundane and, essentially, repetitive at a high level.
They consist of ordinary life experiences with ordinary people. I continually search for an abstract goal and never find it.
That aspect of my dreams has remained constant throughout my life.
The questions I would like you to answer are very simple:
1) What is your age?
2) What is your gender?
3) How have your dreams changed over your lifetime, from the earliest ones you can remember to the one you had last?
Again, you can answer as briefly or at as much length as you like.
Thank you very much for your help!!!
Changes in dream life?
For me, personally, my dream sequences have always been mundane and, essentially, repetitive at a high level.
They consist of ordinary life experiences with ordinary people. I continually search for an abstract goal and never find it.
That aspect of my dreams has remained constant throughout my life.
I am a female and i want change my gender what can i do?
I am a female but i want to be a boy realy .My behaviors are such as a boy and i fall in love with my friend i want to married with her realy i love her .please tell me what shall i do? Anybody in world do this surgery? I want to know her feeling after surgery.please give me her ID or (now) his ID .I want to be touch with her .I want to know how his life now is.He desire of it or not.Thank you. i need your help .
I want maried with my friend realy.
I am a female and i want change my gender what can i do?
There are a number of surgeons around the world that will change your gender. The most prominent place for sex change surgery is Thailand, though I'm not sure why. I had an old roommate who's mother had a sex change surgery there, and apparantly (s)he had a lot of feeling in the new organ and could even orgasm, though there is no way to give you sperm or semen... that is you could never have a child after a sex change.
I am a female and i want change my gender what can i do?
you never change your gender because your a female
I want maried with my friend realy.
I am a female and i want change my gender what can i do?
There are a number of surgeons around the world that will change your gender. The most prominent place for sex change surgery is Thailand, though I'm not sure why. I had an old roommate who's mother had a sex change surgery there, and apparantly (s)he had a lot of feeling in the new organ and could even orgasm, though there is no way to give you sperm or semen... that is you could never have a child after a sex change.
I am a female and i want change my gender what can i do?
you never change your gender because your a female
Guys the kid is a girl women the kid is a boy this is for heterosexuals only or if you HAVE to answer and are?
gay then answr thinking of your preferred gender of child but please don't answer unless the urge to overwhelmes you now If you were somewhere(place irrelivant unless you would act differantly if so please name the places and how you would act and why place changes your behavior.)and a naked child ran up to you and said in a calm happy unfrightened voice said %26quot;hello(ma'am/sir) would you please touch me sexually(If that just sounds wrong to you make the kid in your head say %26quot;diddle me%26quot; or fondle or (heaven forbid but if you must use that word,molest)and he/she is obviously wanting it and you would not get into ANY!! trouble at the end the worst would happen would be a parent coming up and saying %26quot;Oh I see you are enjoying my child I'm sorry to break up your fun but we have to go home now%26quot; and they leave but you will have reached orgasm by then and so will have the child.so would you do it and if not how would you react now I believe the polite thing to do if you were not a pedo would be to say I'm sorry child but I am not interested please go away or to say thank you for the offer but no thank you. or something of that nature.what would you do/say react.
Guys the kid is a girl women the kid is a boy this is for heterosexuals only or if you HAVE to answer and are?
You're an absolute freak.
No seriously. Go ahead. Ask stupid questions like this you good for nothing piece of crap. When another child gets molested and raped and murdered, just you realize that you had that pathtic nerve to put content like this in American society. I wish I had the chance to spit in your face right now you low life.
Guys the kid is a girl women the kid is a boy this is for heterosexuals only or if you HAVE to answer and are?
Are you out of your mind?
This is the most sick question I have heard in a long time.
I would say %26quot;sure little miss%26quot; and proceed to make her orgasm time after time after time then do so myself and then kiss her gently thank her for her services and tell her to have a pleasant day.
Guys the kid is a girl women the kid is a boy this is for heterosexuals only or if you HAVE to answer and are?
You're an absolute freak.
No seriously. Go ahead. Ask stupid questions like this you good for nothing piece of crap. When another child gets molested and raped and murdered, just you realize that you had that pathtic nerve to put content like this in American society. I wish I had the chance to spit in your face right now you low life.
Guys the kid is a girl women the kid is a boy this is for heterosexuals only or if you HAVE to answer and are?
Are you out of your mind?
This is the most sick question I have heard in a long time.
I would say %26quot;sure little miss%26quot; and proceed to make her orgasm time after time after time then do so myself and then kiss her gently thank her for her services and tell her to have a pleasant day.
Harvest Moon Magical Melody ... How do you be a girl instead of a boy in the game?
Is there a setting or something to change the gender of your farmer? because i really want to be a girl but i always end up as a guy.....
Harvest Moon Magical Melody ... How do you be a girl instead of a boy in the game?
The girl is only available in the American or Japanese version.
Playing as a girl farmer in the EU release is not an option, because it was cut out by Rising Star and nothing was replaced.
In English if you play the EU version you cannot be a girl farmer.Can you quilt a queen on a regular machine lock file
Harvest Moon Magical Melody ... How do you be a girl instead of a boy in the game?
The girl is only available in the American or Japanese version.
Playing as a girl farmer in the EU release is not an option, because it was cut out by Rising Star and nothing was replaced.
In English if you play the EU version you cannot be a girl farmer.
What do you think about your body image? SURVEY?
1. Gender:
2. Age:
3. How would you describe the term, %26quot;body image%26quot;?
4. What famous person do you think you look like?
5. What famous person would you like to look like?
6. What part of your body do you like the most?
7. What part do you dislike the most?
8. Does the media affect the way you feel about yourself? Scale 1-10, 1 being not at all
9. If money and pain weren't an issue, how far would you go to change your body?
10. If money and pain were still an issue, how far would you go?
11. What do you think the media's picture of a perfect body is?
12. Does the media affect women or men more...or both evenly?
13. What does your family say about body image?
14. What is your biggest insecurity?
15. Has the media affected how you eat?
16. What makes you feel beautiful?
17. What is a positive outcme of the media's portrayal of %26quot;beauty%26quot;?
18. If you can, describe a situation where you, or someone you know, was influenced by the %26quot;perfect body image%26quot; in a big way
What do you think about your body image? SURVEY?
1. Gender: female
2. Age: 15
3. How would you describe the term, %26quot;body image%26quot;? how people want you look
4. What famous person do you think you look like? miley cyrus
5. What famous person would you like to look like? selena gomez or miley but i already look like miley
6. What part of your body do you like the most? my chest
7. What part do you dislike the most? my stomach
8. Does the media affect the way you feel about yourself? Scale 1-10, 1 being not at all- 4 i don't care what they think about most things i am who i am.
9. If money and pain weren't an issue, how far would you go to change your body? i would want better legs and a smaller stomach but i am more into working out because plastic surgery has it's affects. i would never get it done
10. If money and pain were still an issue, how far would you go? i wouldn't get do anything because of the risks
11. What do you think the media's picture of a perfect body is? a thin body with big boobs and butt and hips but they have to be thin they can't be normal sized or plus sized which i think is stupid
12. Does the media affect women or men more...or both evenly? I think it affects women more
13. What does your family say about body image? they say there is not one way to look.
14. What is your biggest insecurity? my height
15. Has the media affected how you eat?
16. What makes you feel beautiful? when i put on make up and i get my hair and nails done
17. What is a positive outcme of the media's portrayal of %26quot;beauty%26quot;? more girls may end up more confident
18. If you can, describe a situation where you, or someone you know, was influenced by the %26quot;perfect body image%26quot; in a big way: me and my friend were both influenced. we thought we needed to look like all these famous people but then we were like i don't wanna be that thin. so we just ended up saying we liked how we looked.
What do you think about your body image? SURVEY?
1. male, 2..60, 3.perceived looks, 4.don't, 5.Elvis, 6. head, 7. feet, 8.9, 9. all the way, 10. almost all the way, 11. Pick any celeb., 12. evenly, 13.we all the same, 14. Alzheimers, 15. yes, 16. sunny days, 17. Media sets the benchmark, 18. California girl want-a-be (blonde and booby)
you should be thankful I had time to kill
1. Male
2. 30
3. Natural
4. Jason Stratham
5. Dont Care
6. Legs
7. Too Hairy
8. 0
9. Remove most body hair..Permanlty
10. As above
11. Plastic and fake
12. Both
13. They dont ask
14. Body Hair
15. Nope
16. My Girlfriend
17. There is none
18. My teenage female neighbour became so skinny,(self inflicted) she was in hospital for 4 months.
Too many questions at once! For two points that is all I have to say, and I say whoever bothers to give you a decent answer to your question. That answer deserves to get like 20 points.
I so can't be bothered to answer that, im skinny and tall. THERE!
2. Age:
3. How would you describe the term, %26quot;body image%26quot;?
4. What famous person do you think you look like?
5. What famous person would you like to look like?
6. What part of your body do you like the most?
7. What part do you dislike the most?
8. Does the media affect the way you feel about yourself? Scale 1-10, 1 being not at all
9. If money and pain weren't an issue, how far would you go to change your body?
10. If money and pain were still an issue, how far would you go?
11. What do you think the media's picture of a perfect body is?
12. Does the media affect women or men more...or both evenly?
13. What does your family say about body image?
14. What is your biggest insecurity?
15. Has the media affected how you eat?
16. What makes you feel beautiful?
17. What is a positive outcme of the media's portrayal of %26quot;beauty%26quot;?
18. If you can, describe a situation where you, or someone you know, was influenced by the %26quot;perfect body image%26quot; in a big way
What do you think about your body image? SURVEY?
1. Gender: female
2. Age: 15
3. How would you describe the term, %26quot;body image%26quot;? how people want you look
4. What famous person do you think you look like? miley cyrus
5. What famous person would you like to look like? selena gomez or miley but i already look like miley
6. What part of your body do you like the most? my chest
7. What part do you dislike the most? my stomach
8. Does the media affect the way you feel about yourself? Scale 1-10, 1 being not at all- 4 i don't care what they think about most things i am who i am.
9. If money and pain weren't an issue, how far would you go to change your body? i would want better legs and a smaller stomach but i am more into working out because plastic surgery has it's affects. i would never get it done
10. If money and pain were still an issue, how far would you go? i wouldn't get do anything because of the risks
11. What do you think the media's picture of a perfect body is? a thin body with big boobs and butt and hips but they have to be thin they can't be normal sized or plus sized which i think is stupid
12. Does the media affect women or men more...or both evenly? I think it affects women more
13. What does your family say about body image? they say there is not one way to look.
14. What is your biggest insecurity? my height
15. Has the media affected how you eat?
16. What makes you feel beautiful? when i put on make up and i get my hair and nails done
17. What is a positive outcme of the media's portrayal of %26quot;beauty%26quot;? more girls may end up more confident
18. If you can, describe a situation where you, or someone you know, was influenced by the %26quot;perfect body image%26quot; in a big way: me and my friend were both influenced. we thought we needed to look like all these famous people but then we were like i don't wanna be that thin. so we just ended up saying we liked how we looked.
What do you think about your body image? SURVEY?
1. male, 2..60, 3.perceived looks, 4.don't, 5.Elvis, 6. head, 7. feet, 8.9, 9. all the way, 10. almost all the way, 11. Pick any celeb., 12. evenly, 13.we all the same, 14. Alzheimers, 15. yes, 16. sunny days, 17. Media sets the benchmark, 18. California girl want-a-be (blonde and booby)
you should be thankful I had time to kill
1. Male
2. 30
3. Natural
4. Jason Stratham
5. Dont Care
6. Legs
7. Too Hairy
8. 0
9. Remove most body hair..Permanlty
10. As above
11. Plastic and fake
12. Both
13. They dont ask
14. Body Hair
15. Nope
16. My Girlfriend
17. There is none
18. My teenage female neighbour became so skinny,(self inflicted) she was in hospital for 4 months.
Too many questions at once! For two points that is all I have to say, and I say whoever bothers to give you a decent answer to your question. That answer deserves to get like 20 points.
I so can't be bothered to answer that, im skinny and tall. THERE!
Transsexuals!!! When and how did you first realise you were born the gender?
Oddly, when i was 9 I was playing Grand Theft Auto III, now before then I had always wanted girls toys and took interest in feminine stuff and I once wore a dress and enjoyed it as far as I can remember, but anyway oddly it happened while I was playing GTA III and the thing that trigger it was I put in the change your character cheat,(God knows why) and it just trigger aload of emotions and 9 is pretty young to start puberty so and I know I didn't start puberty until just before my 12th birthday so, that takes hormones of the list, but eversince then I've wanted to be girl, I find it very odd that GTA caused it though, that the thing you'd least suspect for triggering such emotions and strong urges, but I'm now approaching 16 and hoping to see my GP soon, i've done tonnes of research on transsexuality and I definitely think this is the true me, lol.
Anyway, how about you when and how did you realise you were born the wrong gender?
I just thought it might be interesting to here other peoples stories
Transsexuals!!! When and how did you first realise you were born the gender?
From my earliest memories, I always wanted to be a girl. My only friends when I was growing up were girls and I always envied them for it. I do remember vividly the first time I acted on it. I was 14 and was babysitting my mom's friends kids. She had older daughters who had moved out and she had two young children. Anyways, I had put the kids to bed and had a few hours to kill, so I was in the rec room in the basement and there was a rack of dresses of the older daughters hanging in the basement. I couldn't help myself and I put on one of them. It was black evening gown, low cut and it sparkled. I was in heaven as I glided around the basement. I even went into one of the spare bedrooms where more clothes were stored and found a pair of black, strappy heels to wear (they were too small for me, but I forced my feet into them. I wobbled around on the heels, but I still remember the electricity running through my body as I heard the heels clicking on the basement floor and from the way that soft dress caressed my body. I changed back before I was caught and I felt incredibly empty inside after that. It was after then that I really began to question myself and I finally (after too many years) have begun my transition.
Transsexuals!!! When and how did you first realise you were born the gender?
I remember having those feelings at age 5.
P.S. The feeling never went away and I am now 52. I was born in an era where Transgendered was considered a mental illness and while I fought to suppress the feelings they always remained....as they do to this day.
I'm a male with a beautiful pair of female breasts, 40b, but I don't feel female. It's an accident of medicine. I have pics to prove it.
I have nothing against transsexuals, but your story is fantastically pathetic.
Grand Theft Auto III? Serious?
When I was 4 years old, my aunt was getting married; my sisters were to be bridesmaids.
I was devastated when I was told that I couldn't be a bridesmaid, because I 'wasn't a girl'....I cried for days.
That was the first time I realised that other people saw me as something other than who I was.
I was told that my parents knew long before I ever told them. I first realized at like age 3, but my parents didnt let me transfer until I was older. They did let me wear girls clothes and they talked to the school to allow me to be considered a female student. I grew up a girl, although I never had the surgery until I was 15.
I was 4 or 5 at the time. My mom babysat for a family where the mother became terminally ill a month after the twins were born. I was the youngest of 6 kids and the twins were 6 and 7 in there family.
I walked into my moms room as she was changing the diaper of one. There was a boy and girl. She was changing Lorie. As soon as I walked through the door I stoped dead in my tracks. It was that instant I realized what the difference was between boys and girls. I remember running to my room and looking in my pants and just started to cry. I knew at that instant I was supposed to look like Lorie.
Before that incident I had been having dreams where I would go in a big machine, it was huge with silver doors. When I would come back out I was a girl even though before that incident I had no concept there was really a difference other then how we dressed and girls had long hair and got to play with dolls with out being made fun of.
I do have 2 pictures. The date on them is 1959 so I would have been 3 at the oldest. I had put on one of my sisters slips, a pair of high heels and had her purse. I vaguely remember it but I'm told I had told every one I was going shopping.
I honestly do not remember any other single incident from being that young other then walking into my mom's room that day. And then crying because I knew I was not right.
Not sure if thats what you want but but thats my story.
For me, it never involved gender (masculine, feminine, and in some cultures others), just biology (male, female, or intersex).
When I was 8, one of the girls came over and we talked and we commented on the absurdity of boys' and girls' roles. I don't know who was the first to mention it, but we both wondered what it would take to turn a boy into a girl, or in her case, the other way around. I don't know where she is, or whether she was also TS.
By the time I was 11, I was scared of male puberty, and tried to figure out ways of avoiding or delaying it. I was eating much less and my parents were scared I was risking my health, and I grew scared they would condemn me if I ever explained what I needed.
Over the next few years, I started hearing negative stereotypes about transsexual people, who were invariably compared with cross-dressers and drag queens. Well, I wasn't interested in women's clothing, and am not interested in it, so I thought I couldn't be transsexual.
At the same time, I got far enough into puberty that I gave up hope. I thought I had to live as a man, and I thought I could. I blotted out my hopes and my memories of my hopes. This still crept through in my dreams.
By my early 20s, I was clearly hoping to become a woman, yet was still thinking of myself as a man, not a trans woman. I knew I needed to transition, but did not think it was possible for me, and did not think I was transsexual, 'cause I didn't fit the stereotypes.
At age 27 I was constantly praying for God to make me a woman. At first it was enough to pray for this in the resurrection, but soon I had to pray for this in the present. Not long after, I ran across one of my old friends, online, and she told me that she had transitioned. She didn't fit the stereotype either.
At age 28, I was curious but still uncertain. Didn't everyone seek to become the opposite sex? Wasn't this part of our common humanity? I ran into anti-trans hate lit (by a certain John Aravosis). I realized that he, and most men, did not share the desires I had assumed all men shared.
Most men hated the idea of becoming women.
I hate the idea of remaining a man.
I realized I could understand trans people and could never understand cis men. It wasn't about clothing. It wasn't about gender. It was about the need to become complete, and the fear of remaining incomplete, where we shared; while for cis people it was reversed, with their need to reman complete and their fear of becoming incomplete.
It still took me some time to ask one of my trans friends for advice, and then another friend, before coming out to my family, who have been very supportive, despite my old fears, coming out to other friends, finding a therapist, finding a support group, going full time ...
But my transition has been so much faster, and so much happier, than my long denial.
My partner remembers always feeling wrong and since coming out to her family there have been snippets showing that she was always girlie. She always got on well with girls too. As is typical though she didn't understand it at first and life got in the way and the need was tucked away. She didn't forget about it and gradually as her situation changed she began to explore her real self and now she is transitioning.
Those were (mostly) wonderful stories!!! What a great way to start a morning.
Good luck everyone and thanks for sharing!
Anyway, how about you when and how did you realise you were born the wrong gender?
I just thought it might be interesting to here other peoples stories
Transsexuals!!! When and how did you first realise you were born the gender?
From my earliest memories, I always wanted to be a girl. My only friends when I was growing up were girls and I always envied them for it. I do remember vividly the first time I acted on it. I was 14 and was babysitting my mom's friends kids. She had older daughters who had moved out and she had two young children. Anyways, I had put the kids to bed and had a few hours to kill, so I was in the rec room in the basement and there was a rack of dresses of the older daughters hanging in the basement. I couldn't help myself and I put on one of them. It was black evening gown, low cut and it sparkled. I was in heaven as I glided around the basement. I even went into one of the spare bedrooms where more clothes were stored and found a pair of black, strappy heels to wear (they were too small for me, but I forced my feet into them. I wobbled around on the heels, but I still remember the electricity running through my body as I heard the heels clicking on the basement floor and from the way that soft dress caressed my body. I changed back before I was caught and I felt incredibly empty inside after that. It was after then that I really began to question myself and I finally (after too many years) have begun my transition.
Transsexuals!!! When and how did you first realise you were born the gender?
I remember having those feelings at age 5.
P.S. The feeling never went away and I am now 52. I was born in an era where Transgendered was considered a mental illness and while I fought to suppress the feelings they always remained....as they do to this day.
I'm a male with a beautiful pair of female breasts, 40b, but I don't feel female. It's an accident of medicine. I have pics to prove it.
I have nothing against transsexuals, but your story is fantastically pathetic.
Grand Theft Auto III? Serious?
When I was 4 years old, my aunt was getting married; my sisters were to be bridesmaids.
I was devastated when I was told that I couldn't be a bridesmaid, because I 'wasn't a girl'....I cried for days.
That was the first time I realised that other people saw me as something other than who I was.
I was told that my parents knew long before I ever told them. I first realized at like age 3, but my parents didnt let me transfer until I was older. They did let me wear girls clothes and they talked to the school to allow me to be considered a female student. I grew up a girl, although I never had the surgery until I was 15.
I was 4 or 5 at the time. My mom babysat for a family where the mother became terminally ill a month after the twins were born. I was the youngest of 6 kids and the twins were 6 and 7 in there family.
I walked into my moms room as she was changing the diaper of one. There was a boy and girl. She was changing Lorie. As soon as I walked through the door I stoped dead in my tracks. It was that instant I realized what the difference was between boys and girls. I remember running to my room and looking in my pants and just started to cry. I knew at that instant I was supposed to look like Lorie.
Before that incident I had been having dreams where I would go in a big machine, it was huge with silver doors. When I would come back out I was a girl even though before that incident I had no concept there was really a difference other then how we dressed and girls had long hair and got to play with dolls with out being made fun of.
I do have 2 pictures. The date on them is 1959 so I would have been 3 at the oldest. I had put on one of my sisters slips, a pair of high heels and had her purse. I vaguely remember it but I'm told I had told every one I was going shopping.
I honestly do not remember any other single incident from being that young other then walking into my mom's room that day. And then crying because I knew I was not right.
Not sure if thats what you want but but thats my story.
For me, it never involved gender (masculine, feminine, and in some cultures others), just biology (male, female, or intersex).
When I was 8, one of the girls came over and we talked and we commented on the absurdity of boys' and girls' roles. I don't know who was the first to mention it, but we both wondered what it would take to turn a boy into a girl, or in her case, the other way around. I don't know where she is, or whether she was also TS.
By the time I was 11, I was scared of male puberty, and tried to figure out ways of avoiding or delaying it. I was eating much less and my parents were scared I was risking my health, and I grew scared they would condemn me if I ever explained what I needed.
Over the next few years, I started hearing negative stereotypes about transsexual people, who were invariably compared with cross-dressers and drag queens. Well, I wasn't interested in women's clothing, and am not interested in it, so I thought I couldn't be transsexual.
At the same time, I got far enough into puberty that I gave up hope. I thought I had to live as a man, and I thought I could. I blotted out my hopes and my memories of my hopes. This still crept through in my dreams.
By my early 20s, I was clearly hoping to become a woman, yet was still thinking of myself as a man, not a trans woman. I knew I needed to transition, but did not think it was possible for me, and did not think I was transsexual, 'cause I didn't fit the stereotypes.
At age 27 I was constantly praying for God to make me a woman. At first it was enough to pray for this in the resurrection, but soon I had to pray for this in the present. Not long after, I ran across one of my old friends, online, and she told me that she had transitioned. She didn't fit the stereotype either.
At age 28, I was curious but still uncertain. Didn't everyone seek to become the opposite sex? Wasn't this part of our common humanity? I ran into anti-trans hate lit (by a certain John Aravosis). I realized that he, and most men, did not share the desires I had assumed all men shared.
Most men hated the idea of becoming women.
I hate the idea of remaining a man.
I realized I could understand trans people and could never understand cis men. It wasn't about clothing. It wasn't about gender. It was about the need to become complete, and the fear of remaining incomplete, where we shared; while for cis people it was reversed, with their need to reman complete and their fear of becoming incomplete.
It still took me some time to ask one of my trans friends for advice, and then another friend, before coming out to my family, who have been very supportive, despite my old fears, coming out to other friends, finding a therapist, finding a support group, going full time ...
But my transition has been so much faster, and so much happier, than my long denial.
My partner remembers always feeling wrong and since coming out to her family there have been snippets showing that she was always girlie. She always got on well with girls too. As is typical though she didn't understand it at first and life got in the way and the need was tucked away. She didn't forget about it and gradually as her situation changed she began to explore her real self and now she is transitioning.
Those were (mostly) wonderful stories!!! What a great way to start a morning.
Good luck everyone and thanks for sharing!
How Do You Hide Only Your Age On Your Myspace Profile? (Better Details)?
Hey, This May Sound Creepy, But It Honestly Isn't.
I Changed My Age To 18 Years Old In Order To Participate In A Certain LGBT Group Group On Myspace. Apparently %26quot;This group may contain materials of a mature subject matter. It is inappropriate for members under the age of 18.%26quot; And Note: Once You Change Your Age To 18, You Cannot Change It To Anything Lower.
And This Group Is In No Way Inappropriate, Sure Some Topics Are Risque, But Its Just With Certain Words That People Post In The Topics.
Anyways, This Change Happened Out Of Nowhere.
My Main Goal Is To Not Mislead Anyone Into Thinking I'm 18, When Really I'm 16. My Page Even Says This! (Proof: www.myspace.com/xxxmusikxxxodxxx)
Important Details: I JUST Want The Age Hidden. Not The Last Login. Not The Gender. Not The Location. Just The Age!
I Am using Profile 1.0. (NOT 2.0, And NO I Am NOT Upgrading)
How Do You Hide Only Your Age On Your Myspace Profile? (Better Details)?
Well, i don't think anyone really minds about what it says in your basic info. but still here's the code to hide your age in 1.0(btw if you change one thing you have to change all of it, sorry):
Paste this code in the Headline section, right after your current headline text. Replace where it says GENDER with your gender, where it says AGE with your age, where it says CITY, STATE with your city and state, where it says COUNTRY with your country, and where it says TODAY with whatever you want the last login to be.
” %26lt;font class=%26quot;on cc%26quot;%26gt;%26lt;font class=on%26gt;GENDER%26lt;/font%26gt;%26lt;font class=on%26gt;AGE years old%26lt;/font%26gt;%26lt;font class=on%26gt;City, STATE%26lt;/font%26gt;%26lt;font class=on%26gt;COUNTRY%26lt;/font%26gt;%26lt;/font%26gt;%26lt;font class=cc2%26gt;Last Login: TODAY%26lt;/font%26gt;%26lt;font class=off%26gt;
Then put this in your about me:
%26lt;style%26gt;.cc{display:block;padding-top:8…
%26lt;p%26gt;
hope i helped and i'm sorry i couldn't find the code just for hiding your age!
How Do You Hide Only Your Age On Your Myspace Profile? (Better Details)?
You can change ur age from 18 to lower I just tried it and as for wanting to just hide your age you can but whats the point if ppl can just see it thru firefox or lite view?
honey you changed your age for a stupid reason, there are reasons why you have to be 18 or older to see certain things or join certain groups on myspace[: I'm only 14 and sure there are lots of groups I can't join because i'm not old enough, but you have no self control.
*sigh* here use this code
%26lt;style type=%26quot;text/css%26quot;%26gt;
table td.text {visibility:hidden;}
td.text td, td.text span, td.text a {visibility:visible;}
%26lt;/style%26gt;
hopefully you will learn.
BTW-it hides everything you can not just hide your age, that's only if you have a certain layout[:
I Changed My Age To 18 Years Old In Order To Participate In A Certain LGBT Group Group On Myspace. Apparently %26quot;This group may contain materials of a mature subject matter. It is inappropriate for members under the age of 18.%26quot; And Note: Once You Change Your Age To 18, You Cannot Change It To Anything Lower.
And This Group Is In No Way Inappropriate, Sure Some Topics Are Risque, But Its Just With Certain Words That People Post In The Topics.
Anyways, This Change Happened Out Of Nowhere.
My Main Goal Is To Not Mislead Anyone Into Thinking I'm 18, When Really I'm 16. My Page Even Says This! (Proof: www.myspace.com/xxxmusikxxxodxxx)
Important Details: I JUST Want The Age Hidden. Not The Last Login. Not The Gender. Not The Location. Just The Age!
I Am using Profile 1.0. (NOT 2.0, And NO I Am NOT Upgrading)
How Do You Hide Only Your Age On Your Myspace Profile? (Better Details)?
Well, i don't think anyone really minds about what it says in your basic info. but still here's the code to hide your age in 1.0(btw if you change one thing you have to change all of it, sorry):
Paste this code in the Headline section, right after your current headline text. Replace where it says GENDER with your gender, where it says AGE with your age, where it says CITY, STATE with your city and state, where it says COUNTRY with your country, and where it says TODAY with whatever you want the last login to be.
” %26lt;font class=%26quot;on cc%26quot;%26gt;%26lt;font class=on%26gt;GENDER%26lt;/font%26gt;%26lt;font class=on%26gt;AGE years old%26lt;/font%26gt;%26lt;font class=on%26gt;City, STATE%26lt;/font%26gt;%26lt;font class=on%26gt;COUNTRY%26lt;/font%26gt;%26lt;/font%26gt;%26lt;font class=cc2%26gt;Last Login: TODAY%26lt;/font%26gt;%26lt;font class=off%26gt;
Then put this in your about me:
%26lt;style%26gt;.cc{display:block;padding-top:8…
%26lt;p%26gt;
hope i helped and i'm sorry i couldn't find the code just for hiding your age!
How Do You Hide Only Your Age On Your Myspace Profile? (Better Details)?
You can change ur age from 18 to lower I just tried it and as for wanting to just hide your age you can but whats the point if ppl can just see it thru firefox or lite view?
honey you changed your age for a stupid reason, there are reasons why you have to be 18 or older to see certain things or join certain groups on myspace[: I'm only 14 and sure there are lots of groups I can't join because i'm not old enough, but you have no self control.
*sigh* here use this code
%26lt;style type=%26quot;text/css%26quot;%26gt;
table td.text {visibility:hidden;}
td.text td, td.text span, td.text a {visibility:visible;}
%26lt;/style%26gt;
hopefully you will learn.
BTW-it hides everything you can not just hide your age, that's only if you have a certain layout[:
How do you treat people differently based on their Gender (or do you)?
All these are just examples to give an idea of what the question is about:
If you are a guy, do you refrain from swearing in womens company?
Do you open doors just for women, but not for men?
Do you drop the conversation about the latest sports?
If you are a woman, do you censor the talk about beauty products?
Do you drop the swearing?
Do you change your behaviour more just to fit in with different social contexts? In other words, if you stop talking about sport, for example, is it because your wife isn't interested in sport rather than because she is a woman.
Do you think you present differently to those of the opposite sex to those of the same sex?
How do you treat people differently based on their Gender (or do you)?
How do you treat people differently based on their Gender (or do you)?
No, I don't usually treat people differently based on their gender, only few exceptions:
1 - I am an affectionate and maternal person, have a tendency to hug, touch, kiss often and say pet names such as %26quot;sweetie%26quot;, %26quot;hon%26quot;, %26quot;darling%26quot;... because of such, in the past, few male friends had thought (during the beginning of our friendship) that I was interested in them romantically, which led me to either explain myself or tone down my way of being with them, only until they realised that this is part of the way I am with people in general.
Most women don't misunderstand my affection, even after they have become aware that I am bisexual.
2 - I trust my male friends more when sharing personal information, as they tend to be more discreet and not gossip (most, not all).
Other than that, I speak and behave the same around both, and entertain whatever subject comes up...I've discussed poetry, history, beer, romance, film, music, beauty products, art, cooking, cultures, football (soccer), politics, nature, sexuality, dance, and so on...
The gender is of no importance when exchanging with others, it is the individual - his or her interests, what they would like to discuss, I just go with the flow of the moment.
How do you treat people differently based on their Gender (or do you)?
I don't take the opinions of women seriously.
I hug men a lot more than women, I also trust male friends more than female friends, so I'd definitely say less private things to women.
I don't treat people differently according to gender [or at least I try not to]. I see people for who they are and treat them accordingly, I don't see walking and talking vaginas and penises..
I probably do treat the genders a bit differently subconsciously.. But I don't think it's anything big.
I really don't understand people who become a completely different person when they're around people of the same gender and when they're around people of the opposite gender. It doesn't make sense to me, all I can see when I meet a person like that is a liar.. They're lying to themselves and to me as to who they really are, IMO.
Which is why it drives me insane to the point of almost wanting to quit relationships altogether when I meet a man who is a gentleman around me but an *** around his guy friends.
I dont talk about %26quot;chicks%26quot; when im with my female friends, and I would never touch the rolls of an overweight woman!
At first I was going to say that I don't talk or act differently around men or women based on gender, but that's not entirely true. I rarely bring up politics as a topic of conversation with women but I will with guys, and I won't bring up gardening with guys unless I know they do some. If any women was to bring up beauty products in my presence my eyes would probably cross and I'd pass out. I hate that kind of chit-chat. I try not to swear in front of anyone but my husband and I hold doors open for everyone---men/women, old/young.
i treat people the way that i would wanna be treated if they are mean to me then i am mean to them doesn't matter what they look like!!
I dont treat people as a gender, i treat them as a person.
I treat people the way THEY want to be treated. I listen, observe and ask questions.
Take care.
I don't do it based on gender, but rather on the age of the person I am speaking with. If I am speaking to an older person I am much more respectful, and if I am speaking to a child I am much more playful. If it's someone in my age group or my parents age group I talk as an adult to other adults, relaxed and no guard up.
If I am talking to a woman I talk about the same things as I do with a man. It doesn't matter either way because I look for a common value theme and can discuss issues based on what we have in common or not...
I'm more apt to adjust the way I talk based on the person's intelligence as well.. some children act mighty intelligent and some adults act mighty childish. If I talk to someone super intelligent who loves to talk about philosophy and life, then I enjoy intellectual conversations. If I talk to someone who brags on about all the things they own and how great they are I excuse myself... if on the other hand it is a person who wants to tell me about all the places they have been in the world I will listen and ohhh and ahhh because one of my dreams is to travel.
:)
i treat people on how they treat me.
if they are nice, i treat them back nicely.
even though im a girl, sometimes i treat boys nicer than girls. sometimes, boys actually have more interesting things to talk about than girls. and a lot of times, boys treat me better than girls.
i don't treat people differently based on sex, but out of respect of another persons beliefs, i don't swear in front of religious people, or rather i try to refrain from it,i guess it really depends on how well you know the particular person or not, but as a whole, I treat both sexes the same
I always try to treat people in the manner they wish. I try not to swear in front of women or men, unless they break the ice. And I'll open doors for anyone. Of course, one's behaviour must change if one hopes to fit in different social contexts - but that's merely displaying good manners - it doesn't matter what gender of the other person/people may be. About the only differenceI have ever displayed is that I never wanted to pick up a guy before!
If you are a guy, do you refrain from swearing in womens company?
Do you open doors just for women, but not for men?
Do you drop the conversation about the latest sports?
If you are a woman, do you censor the talk about beauty products?
Do you drop the swearing?
Do you change your behaviour more just to fit in with different social contexts? In other words, if you stop talking about sport, for example, is it because your wife isn't interested in sport rather than because she is a woman.
Do you think you present differently to those of the opposite sex to those of the same sex?
How do you treat people differently based on their Gender (or do you)?
How do you treat people differently based on their Gender (or do you)?
No, I don't usually treat people differently based on their gender, only few exceptions:
1 - I am an affectionate and maternal person, have a tendency to hug, touch, kiss often and say pet names such as %26quot;sweetie%26quot;, %26quot;hon%26quot;, %26quot;darling%26quot;... because of such, in the past, few male friends had thought (during the beginning of our friendship) that I was interested in them romantically, which led me to either explain myself or tone down my way of being with them, only until they realised that this is part of the way I am with people in general.
Most women don't misunderstand my affection, even after they have become aware that I am bisexual.
2 - I trust my male friends more when sharing personal information, as they tend to be more discreet and not gossip (most, not all).
Other than that, I speak and behave the same around both, and entertain whatever subject comes up...I've discussed poetry, history, beer, romance, film, music, beauty products, art, cooking, cultures, football (soccer), politics, nature, sexuality, dance, and so on...
The gender is of no importance when exchanging with others, it is the individual - his or her interests, what they would like to discuss, I just go with the flow of the moment.
How do you treat people differently based on their Gender (or do you)?
I don't take the opinions of women seriously.
I hug men a lot more than women, I also trust male friends more than female friends, so I'd definitely say less private things to women.
I don't treat people differently according to gender [or at least I try not to]. I see people for who they are and treat them accordingly, I don't see walking and talking vaginas and penises..
I probably do treat the genders a bit differently subconsciously.. But I don't think it's anything big.
I really don't understand people who become a completely different person when they're around people of the same gender and when they're around people of the opposite gender. It doesn't make sense to me, all I can see when I meet a person like that is a liar.. They're lying to themselves and to me as to who they really are, IMO.
Which is why it drives me insane to the point of almost wanting to quit relationships altogether when I meet a man who is a gentleman around me but an *** around his guy friends.
I dont talk about %26quot;chicks%26quot; when im with my female friends, and I would never touch the rolls of an overweight woman!
At first I was going to say that I don't talk or act differently around men or women based on gender, but that's not entirely true. I rarely bring up politics as a topic of conversation with women but I will with guys, and I won't bring up gardening with guys unless I know they do some. If any women was to bring up beauty products in my presence my eyes would probably cross and I'd pass out. I hate that kind of chit-chat. I try not to swear in front of anyone but my husband and I hold doors open for everyone---men/women, old/young.
i treat people the way that i would wanna be treated if they are mean to me then i am mean to them doesn't matter what they look like!!
I dont treat people as a gender, i treat them as a person.
I treat people the way THEY want to be treated. I listen, observe and ask questions.
Take care.
I don't do it based on gender, but rather on the age of the person I am speaking with. If I am speaking to an older person I am much more respectful, and if I am speaking to a child I am much more playful. If it's someone in my age group or my parents age group I talk as an adult to other adults, relaxed and no guard up.
If I am talking to a woman I talk about the same things as I do with a man. It doesn't matter either way because I look for a common value theme and can discuss issues based on what we have in common or not...
I'm more apt to adjust the way I talk based on the person's intelligence as well.. some children act mighty intelligent and some adults act mighty childish. If I talk to someone super intelligent who loves to talk about philosophy and life, then I enjoy intellectual conversations. If I talk to someone who brags on about all the things they own and how great they are I excuse myself... if on the other hand it is a person who wants to tell me about all the places they have been in the world I will listen and ohhh and ahhh because one of my dreams is to travel.
:)
i treat people on how they treat me.
if they are nice, i treat them back nicely.
even though im a girl, sometimes i treat boys nicer than girls. sometimes, boys actually have more interesting things to talk about than girls. and a lot of times, boys treat me better than girls.
i don't treat people differently based on sex, but out of respect of another persons beliefs, i don't swear in front of religious people, or rather i try to refrain from it,i guess it really depends on how well you know the particular person or not, but as a whole, I treat both sexes the same
I always try to treat people in the manner they wish. I try not to swear in front of women or men, unless they break the ice. And I'll open doors for anyone. Of course, one's behaviour must change if one hopes to fit in different social contexts - but that's merely displaying good manners - it doesn't matter what gender of the other person/people may be. About the only differenceI have ever displayed is that I never wanted to pick up a guy before!
How do you feel about a sibling or a dear friend changing clothes in your presence?
Of course I’m refering to a sibling or a dear friend, who is an adult of your own gender. I want to know especially about in the presence of a friend, not sibling as I realise that most would find that to be ‘acceptable’.
First of all I could NEVER bring myself to change clothes, in the presence of another breathing human being, so be it my mother. My bestie feels comfortable enough to change dresses in my presense, not that I stare at her while doing so, but I find it both to be ‘strange’ and ‘confusing’. Say what?
How do you feel about a sibling or a dear friend changing clothes in your presence?
I cant AT ALL, be naked like with no clothes in front of anyone, not even my mother who gave me birth.
but lets say im changing my jeans or my top so i can do that ONLY in the presence of my sister , but never naked ( u know what i mean)...
Oh btw the other day i meet a Girl who couldnt change her clothes in front of ppl in the store, there was only ONE trying room and all the Girls were hunting the room, so she refused to change her clothe and even try, so i told her to go to the men side( no one is there) and she did it.
u arent the Only one having Haya... and thats something Good btw.
i hate the Most When a woman breastfeed her baby in front of me, i cant even look at her, i turn my face and i ask myself deep down '' like why dont she have haya? what is this Rudness?!''
Salam sis
How do you feel about a sibling or a dear friend changing clothes in your presence?
I afraid to see whats they doing, better I go out from thats room. Although same gender, we must shy to each other...
................... pervert LOL!!!!!!!!! just kiddin LOL!!!!!
i dont have any problem in changing in presence of any man. i mean besides the underwear thing LOL!!! i dont change it in-front of anyone (and it should be like that).
i even change my shirts in-front of me sister or cousins (mostly of my cousins still think i am a baby I AM FREAKIN 15 NOW!!!) and i dont have any problem in that. and me and my friends take baths in tube wells just in undies LOL!!!! fun times !!!!.
but in-front of stranger (women) i dont take off anything. but in-front of family and friends i have no problem. i even sometimes show off with my muscles in front of my cousins LOL!!!!!!!
I always change in front of mates at school...
nothing wrong in it.
we all have the same body.,,
Lol@ahmad
i used to do this when i was kid: -D but now iam adult so this doesnt make sense to change my cloths in front of anyone we are having an adult body right...so it looks stupid changing clothes when someone else in room
i never do this but i cant say as i wont do it becoz i wont feel shame changing my clothes in front of my gf...lol isnt?
bye :-)
well,if i really have no choice in leaving then i wouldn't stare at the friend,but that would be weird
Salam
me change my clothes in Primark in front of everybody. Oh! The pain! I was only 15!
%26gt;Looks down at the floor%26lt;
*shame*
sure u dont stare? hhhhmmmmmm? wats w/ ur explicit Qs, sheesh there r lyk 12 yr olds on this site, spare us all of ur personal lyf hormonal sexual orientation confusion!
Yabatloon!
i've hated it since i was 3, no joke. my brothers used to do that all the time and i'd accuse them of being gay lol and yell haram haram!!! no joke but any how, i'm older now, still don't like it, not even just a shirt change, still yell at them and/or leave the room
I agree with you because most of my friends do that in the locker room and I'm just like OMG! I look the other way and get myself distracted because I find it gross and weird.
same here !!
i just can't .. my mom tells me %26quot;i gave birth to you .. why are you being like this%26quot; .. lol
changing a top while having a spagetti top inside is fine .. or changing the jeans while im wearing a long top .. is fine .. once when i went to the ladies only steam room with my bff.. i made sure that no one was there, and wraped a towel over the bathing-suit and russsshed.. that too takes alot of guts i must say o_o .. darn rules !
i agree with lebanese spirit with the haya part ..
its a good thing =)
and who cares about the weird comments (atleast i get them).. and how it may annoy some ..
i am not changing !! ;)
I feel fine thank you . It also makes me feel closer to them .My girlfriend swallowed my gerbil Twister DOUBLE duvet set
First of all I could NEVER bring myself to change clothes, in the presence of another breathing human being, so be it my mother. My bestie feels comfortable enough to change dresses in my presense, not that I stare at her while doing so, but I find it both to be ‘strange’ and ‘confusing’. Say what?
How do you feel about a sibling or a dear friend changing clothes in your presence?
I cant AT ALL, be naked like with no clothes in front of anyone, not even my mother who gave me birth.
but lets say im changing my jeans or my top so i can do that ONLY in the presence of my sister , but never naked ( u know what i mean)...
Oh btw the other day i meet a Girl who couldnt change her clothes in front of ppl in the store, there was only ONE trying room and all the Girls were hunting the room, so she refused to change her clothe and even try, so i told her to go to the men side( no one is there) and she did it.
u arent the Only one having Haya... and thats something Good btw.
i hate the Most When a woman breastfeed her baby in front of me, i cant even look at her, i turn my face and i ask myself deep down '' like why dont she have haya? what is this Rudness?!''
Salam sis
How do you feel about a sibling or a dear friend changing clothes in your presence?
I afraid to see whats they doing, better I go out from thats room. Although same gender, we must shy to each other...
................... pervert LOL!!!!!!!!! just kiddin LOL!!!!!
i dont have any problem in changing in presence of any man. i mean besides the underwear thing LOL!!! i dont change it in-front of anyone (and it should be like that).
i even change my shirts in-front of me sister or cousins (mostly of my cousins still think i am a baby I AM FREAKIN 15 NOW!!!) and i dont have any problem in that. and me and my friends take baths in tube wells just in undies LOL!!!! fun times !!!!.
but in-front of stranger (women) i dont take off anything. but in-front of family and friends i have no problem. i even sometimes show off with my muscles in front of my cousins LOL!!!!!!!
I always change in front of mates at school...
nothing wrong in it.
we all have the same body.,,
Lol@ahmad
i used to do this when i was kid: -D but now iam adult so this doesnt make sense to change my cloths in front of anyone we are having an adult body right...so it looks stupid changing clothes when someone else in room
i never do this but i cant say as i wont do it becoz i wont feel shame changing my clothes in front of my gf...lol isnt?
bye :-)
well,if i really have no choice in leaving then i wouldn't stare at the friend,but that would be weird
Salam
me change my clothes in Primark in front of everybody. Oh! The pain! I was only 15!
%26gt;Looks down at the floor%26lt;
*shame*
sure u dont stare? hhhhmmmmmm? wats w/ ur explicit Qs, sheesh there r lyk 12 yr olds on this site, spare us all of ur personal lyf hormonal sexual orientation confusion!
Yabatloon!
i've hated it since i was 3, no joke. my brothers used to do that all the time and i'd accuse them of being gay lol and yell haram haram!!! no joke but any how, i'm older now, still don't like it, not even just a shirt change, still yell at them and/or leave the room
I agree with you because most of my friends do that in the locker room and I'm just like OMG! I look the other way and get myself distracted because I find it gross and weird.
same here !!
i just can't .. my mom tells me %26quot;i gave birth to you .. why are you being like this%26quot; .. lol
changing a top while having a spagetti top inside is fine .. or changing the jeans while im wearing a long top .. is fine .. once when i went to the ladies only steam room with my bff.. i made sure that no one was there, and wraped a towel over the bathing-suit and russsshed.. that too takes alot of guts i must say o_o .. darn rules !
i agree with lebanese spirit with the haya part ..
its a good thing =)
and who cares about the weird comments (atleast i get them).. and how it may annoy some ..
i am not changing !! ;)
I feel fine thank you . It also makes me feel closer to them .
How do you feel about a sibling or a dear friend changing clothes in your presence?
Of course I’m refering to a sibling or a dear friend, who is an adult of your own gender. I want to know especially about in the presence of a friend, not sibling as I realise that most would find that to be ‘acceptable’.
First of all I could NEVER bring myself to change clothes, in the presence of another breathing human being, so be it my mother. My bestie feels comfortable enough to change dresses in my presense, not that I stare at her while doing so, but I find it both to be ‘strange’ and ‘confusing’. Say what?
How do you feel about a sibling or a dear friend changing clothes in your presence?
Well, I have sometimes seen my sister topless, if she runs from bathroom to fetch something which she forgot, and I walk around in my room topless, even if family member comes in. There is nothing dirty in it, of course, but I prefer clothes! p
Atheist.
How do you feel about a sibling or a dear friend changing clothes in your presence?
I'd turn and face the other way -- for an atheist, I'm surprisingly prudish.
I'm not comfortable.
I believe people should be modest all the time I don't want to see nudes.
I'm just as modest in that respect as any other person with friends. As for family, that's just incestuous and weird.
What the hell do I care. I've been to boot camp and saw 70 swinging d?cks in the showers everyday for two months. Seeing my buddy or brother in his underwear isn't going to phase me much.
no, not in front of a sibling or dear friend. in front of my fiance, yea.
Get over it...there's billions of people on the planet and we all have the same junk.
Of all the problems in the world and personal relationships this subject is a non-issue.
If same gender, than it's ok.
In school we change clothes in the same locker room for gym class.
Marlon your just plain pathetic. %26quot;I don't want to see nudes%26quot; don't lie your %26quot;god%26quot; is watching you.
I find the practice to be a great topic of conversation in an appropriate forum.
If it's a sibling, I don't really care. I sometimes help my sister pick out things to wear after she gets out of the shower. A best friend on the other hand...-_- I'm ashamed to say I sometimes watch to compare myself to her. Oh, she's got a big butt. Bet guys like that...damn, mine's so flat.
Pics or it didn't happen.
EDIT: 18 or older, ONLY!
Not falling into that trap, again.
as a adult of my gender it would not be a problem
if you go to a gym you change clothes with others of the same gender
clothes are a recent invention made by human beings. When i say recent i'm talking about from a planetary history stance. Humans have been around for 100s of thousands of years and it's only in the last 10,000 years or fewer that we've been covering up our naughty places because it's only been in recent history that we've had %26quot;naughty places%26quot; all the other animals are perfectly content being nude. Human beings are weird, weird creatures. We're all so uptight with our societal guidelines and codes of behavior. I say, if it's not hurting anyone than go right ahead and do it.
Here in Europe we don't know this sort of prudeness, I don't hesitate to change clothes regardless of other male or female relatives. And of course no one would have any reason to stare at anyone. We do know how a human body looks.
While I'm not exactly one to just start dropping trou in front of my houseguests, if I need to change and there happens to be a friend over, I change. Don't care who sees what, as I don't think I have too many friends who haven't seen me dru... umm... change.
The older I get, the less I care. In the gym I've noticed senior citizens don't give a damn. They let all their saggy old person parts hang out everywhere. I guess I'm headed that way. It's only nakedness. It's not like anyone is taking pictures.
Sheesh,I'm male and used to play sports,after a match the showers are communal.
It seems a lot of people are afraid of the human body,no wonder there is so much repression in the world.
I was in the Navy. all modesty is gone now.
I went to take a pee at work, and the CFO came in after me. I looked at his wiener.
I went into a department store with a friend of mine to return a pair of trousers that I found were faulty when I tried them on at home.
Neither my friend or the shop assistant (or any of the other customers in the shop) batted an eyelid when I changed these clothes for a pair that were ok.
i could care less
nudity is natural
one must learn to control one's thoughts, not just ones actions...
I think most would do it modestly, if you feel it is for show, leave the room, otherwise, just divert your eyes while the change is taking place.
Unlike some people, I'm not so obsessed with sex that the sight of another person's naked body turns me into some kind of raging sex monster or make me feel obsessed with guilt. It's no big deal.
Peace.
It would make me feel uncomfortable, but if it was the most practical solution(e.g. only empty room in the house) I wouldn't protest. Surely everyone is used to this after changing rooms in school.
It doesn't bother me as long as they keep their underwear on. I've been in many weddings and I've helped friends and relatives get into their tuxedos. Besides, I went to high school back in the days where everyone had to take a shower, so it's no big deal to me.
Torg
If they are the same gender it doesn't bother me at all.
Actually I would feel more comfortable changing infront of my best friend than my own sister, as my sister always seems to critise my weight and tell me I'm too skinny, my best friend would never say anything like that.
However I would never dream of getting changed infront of any of my guy friends or brothers, that would be very very uncomfortable for us all.
umm I'd prefer not.
First of all I could NEVER bring myself to change clothes, in the presence of another breathing human being, so be it my mother. My bestie feels comfortable enough to change dresses in my presense, not that I stare at her while doing so, but I find it both to be ‘strange’ and ‘confusing’. Say what?
How do you feel about a sibling or a dear friend changing clothes in your presence?
Well, I have sometimes seen my sister topless, if she runs from bathroom to fetch something which she forgot, and I walk around in my room topless, even if family member comes in. There is nothing dirty in it, of course, but I prefer clothes! p
Atheist.
How do you feel about a sibling or a dear friend changing clothes in your presence?
I'd turn and face the other way -- for an atheist, I'm surprisingly prudish.
I'm not comfortable.
I believe people should be modest all the time I don't want to see nudes.
I'm just as modest in that respect as any other person with friends. As for family, that's just incestuous and weird.
What the hell do I care. I've been to boot camp and saw 70 swinging d?cks in the showers everyday for two months. Seeing my buddy or brother in his underwear isn't going to phase me much.
no, not in front of a sibling or dear friend. in front of my fiance, yea.
Get over it...there's billions of people on the planet and we all have the same junk.
Of all the problems in the world and personal relationships this subject is a non-issue.
If same gender, than it's ok.
In school we change clothes in the same locker room for gym class.
Marlon your just plain pathetic. %26quot;I don't want to see nudes%26quot; don't lie your %26quot;god%26quot; is watching you.
I find the practice to be a great topic of conversation in an appropriate forum.
If it's a sibling, I don't really care. I sometimes help my sister pick out things to wear after she gets out of the shower. A best friend on the other hand...-_- I'm ashamed to say I sometimes watch to compare myself to her. Oh, she's got a big butt. Bet guys like that...damn, mine's so flat.
Pics or it didn't happen.
EDIT: 18 or older, ONLY!
Not falling into that trap, again.
as a adult of my gender it would not be a problem
if you go to a gym you change clothes with others of the same gender
clothes are a recent invention made by human beings. When i say recent i'm talking about from a planetary history stance. Humans have been around for 100s of thousands of years and it's only in the last 10,000 years or fewer that we've been covering up our naughty places because it's only been in recent history that we've had %26quot;naughty places%26quot; all the other animals are perfectly content being nude. Human beings are weird, weird creatures. We're all so uptight with our societal guidelines and codes of behavior. I say, if it's not hurting anyone than go right ahead and do it.
Here in Europe we don't know this sort of prudeness, I don't hesitate to change clothes regardless of other male or female relatives. And of course no one would have any reason to stare at anyone. We do know how a human body looks.
While I'm not exactly one to just start dropping trou in front of my houseguests, if I need to change and there happens to be a friend over, I change. Don't care who sees what, as I don't think I have too many friends who haven't seen me dru... umm... change.
The older I get, the less I care. In the gym I've noticed senior citizens don't give a damn. They let all their saggy old person parts hang out everywhere. I guess I'm headed that way. It's only nakedness. It's not like anyone is taking pictures.
Sheesh,I'm male and used to play sports,after a match the showers are communal.
It seems a lot of people are afraid of the human body,no wonder there is so much repression in the world.
I was in the Navy. all modesty is gone now.
I went to take a pee at work, and the CFO came in after me. I looked at his wiener.
I went into a department store with a friend of mine to return a pair of trousers that I found were faulty when I tried them on at home.
Neither my friend or the shop assistant (or any of the other customers in the shop) batted an eyelid when I changed these clothes for a pair that were ok.
i could care less
nudity is natural
one must learn to control one's thoughts, not just ones actions...
I think most would do it modestly, if you feel it is for show, leave the room, otherwise, just divert your eyes while the change is taking place.
Unlike some people, I'm not so obsessed with sex that the sight of another person's naked body turns me into some kind of raging sex monster or make me feel obsessed with guilt. It's no big deal.
Peace.
It would make me feel uncomfortable, but if it was the most practical solution(e.g. only empty room in the house) I wouldn't protest. Surely everyone is used to this after changing rooms in school.
It doesn't bother me as long as they keep their underwear on. I've been in many weddings and I've helped friends and relatives get into their tuxedos. Besides, I went to high school back in the days where everyone had to take a shower, so it's no big deal to me.
Torg
If they are the same gender it doesn't bother me at all.
Actually I would feel more comfortable changing infront of my best friend than my own sister, as my sister always seems to critise my weight and tell me I'm too skinny, my best friend would never say anything like that.
However I would never dream of getting changed infront of any of my guy friends or brothers, that would be very very uncomfortable for us all.
umm I'd prefer not.
Baby Gender? Find out or no...see details please, I want both sides?
Last month when I went to the Dr, I could have found out what I was having. My husband didn%26#039;t want to know so I told the Dr I didn%26#039;t want to know (Hubby didn%26#039;t want to know last time, but I found out anyway and wouldn%26#039;t tell him). Later down the road I made a comment about a gender neutral outfit being %26quot;too girly%26quot; and he said that from that comment I was having a girl. Turned out he was right.
For those of you who waited...Did you ever want to change your mind and find out to make planning easier? How did you make it thru without finding out??
For those of you who didn%26#039;t find out, but then later changed your mind and found out...at what point?
I am having mixed thoughts this time about finding out. I don%26#039;t want to know b/c it really doesn%26#039;t matter, but at the same time I want to know so that I can have the perfect coming home outfit and everything already set up??
Baby Gender? Find out or no...see details please, I want both sides?
Ok I will give both sides because I have just found out that we are expecting a baby girl that I am so excited about. However, it is quite strange because I kind of think what is there to tell people after she is born? Her weight not quite the same as saying wow it%26#039;s a lovely little girl or boy. I am not regretting it but perhaps next time I wouldn%26#039;t find out. It is a tough decision that initially can be made so quick. However, I can get a little organised now but then it would serve me right if the sonographer was wrong haha. Good luck with everything.
Baby Gender? Find out or no...see details please, I want both sides?
I%26#039;ve had 2 kids and I%26#039;ve done both...with my first one I waited, and I just got everything in yellows, mint green, red, stuff like that. Things that would fit both a girl and a boy. Turns out I had a boy, and let me tell you, I seriously wish that I would have found out, cause for like the first 5 months, when he was in yellow and mint green clothes and blankets, all i got were people telling me what a beautiful daughter I had. So on my second pregnancy as soon as I knew I could find out the sex I did. And it was a girl, and this was much easier, because I was able to plan everything, she had the prettiest dress to come home in, a gorgeous princess themed room, and at the baby shower, everyone knew I was having a girl so I got so many things that a little girl would want. So my thought is to find out! But thats just me :)
We found out in August that we%26#039;re expecting a boy in January. It seemed like an eternity before we could find out, so I can%26#039;t imagine going until my due date without knowing what the baby is. I promise you, you won%26#039;t be less excited just because you find out early. We%26#039;ve already named him and call him by that name when we talk to him. People are making things for him with his name on them, such as a baby blanket with his name embroidered on. We REALLY wanted a boy, and if it had been a girl then I think I would%26#039;ve needed that extra time to prepare myself mentally! (I%26#039;d be ok with the next one being a girl.)
It really is a personal choice, so good luck to you and congrats!
You already answered your question. Reread your question and you will see that you are leaning towards going ahead to know the baby%26#039;s sex. You are not doing it only because of your husband%26#039;s preferences. Convince him that you both don%26#039;t have to be hurrying to get stuff for the baby when he or she is born. You don%26#039;t want your baby to be wearing a whole bunch of unisex clothing where people often make the mistake to think it%26#039;s a boy when it%26#039;s a girl and vice versa.
Its a girl. Don%26#039;t question it.
With our first child we didn%26#039;t find out and it was kind of nice to be suprised, but with our next two we found out because one we really wanted to know and also since we already had one child we wanted to know so we could save money by saving our first child%26#039;s things ( our first was a girl and so was our second, so we didn%26#039;t get rid of her clothes and all the girly stuff)
Our third was a boy so we could prepare and also it is easier choosing names. I don%26#039;t really see the big deal in finding out, it%26#039;s not as if it is some kind of sin to find out, whatever both parents agree on.
Our friends had the ultrasound tech put the sex of the baby on a piece of paper in an envelope and give it to them and they opened it on Christmas, I thought that was kind of cool.
I agree with you...I found out with both of my kids...I also wanted to have them in the perfect outfit coming home (and for their first picture) and yes, having everything already set up made it alot easier :)
I do know that even if you are told it is never 100%...
I did not find out. We chose not to. Because, as you said - it didn%26#039;t matter. As it turns out, the time spent being pregnant and wondering was small compared to the time since our children have been with us (they are grown now). So, it is a matter of relevance. Six months of wondering verses 25 years of knowing........not such a big deal. As for the perfect coming home outfit.......there are plenty that are gender neutral.
I hope I%26#039;ve helped you.
no
My sister-in-law found out at her 4 month appointment and immediately regretted it. She just wishes it had been a surprise.
A pregnant coworker didn%26#039;t find out and therefore didn%26#039;t get many clothes items since no one knew what she was having. She got lots of junk like hangers, wipes, etc.
I%26#039;d want to know because I%26#039;ve heard it helps you bond with the baby, when you know what sex it is and what the name will be. Not to mention the practicality of it - planning ahead, etc.
We can%26#039;t wait to find out the %26quot;flavor%26quot; of our baby! My reason is that I%26#039;m just curious. My husband wants to know so that he can plan better. I think it%26#039;s part of the fun of having a baby... More power to those who can last 9 months without knowing!
I didn%26#039;t find out with my first child, but with the second I did because I wanted to know if I should be buying things in different colors.
Personally I wish I wouldn%26#039;t have found- out it%26#039;s the element of surprise and you can%26#039;t get that back.
10 years from now will you care or even remember what you took them home in without looking at a picture. I just see that beautiful face with both of them and not the clothes.
I know how you feel.. I changed my mind what seemed like a 100 times..I wanted to know..then I didn%26#039;t want to know. Well when the time came when I was able to find out, I couldn%26#039;t! Baby%26#039;s feet were crossed! I was a little sad, but then I thought well maybe she wants me to wait! So the next time I had an ultrasound I STILL couldn%26#039;t see. My husband really wanted to know too. But then the next time I had an ultrasound I couldn%26#039;t wait to find out and now I%26#039;m having a girl.. I am SOO happy that I found out because I have the cutest girly outfits and perfect outfit to take her home in. I%26#039;m not into the green and yellows so in the end I%26#039;m very glad I found out.
I%26#039;m having a c-section on Saturday because she is still breech!
good luck and congrats on your pregnancy
I found out the sex of my baby. It was definitely easier for me so that I could plan everything and have all of the girly things for her before she was born. I didn%26#039;t really think, being a single mom, that I would have time after she was born to shop for gender specific items.
The baby isn%26#039;t really going to care what colors they have in their nursery, etc. The whole %26#039;having to have gender appropriate colors%26#039; is solely for parents. I%26#039;ve never had a child, but... All I can say is get neutral clothes, greens, oranges, reds, etc, and don%26#039;t worry, because at the rate your baby will grow you%26#039;ll have to get all new clothes in a few months anyway. =) Good luck!!
if you know what the baby is you can buy cute little blue or pink outfits instead of gender neutral stuff. you can plan baby showers and the nursery so much easier. there is so many more suprises and anticipations with the birth of your baby besides its gender and its just as exciting when your getting the ultrasound to find out the sex as it is to find out at birth. so you should make life a little easier on yourself this time.
Just wait
hi it does not realy matter as long as u have a beautiful baby at the end thats all that matters.it is nice to find out the sex , but is also nice to have a surprise, i have 3 kids and found out the sex off all of them which is nice as u can get the colours u want then and plan more, but i do wish sometimes that i had not found out the sex so i would off had the surprise, but i wouldnt say its easy not knowing its very hard esp now they have made it so easy for u to find out the sex without paying for it. i say if u can ride it out and get that extra special surprise at the end as its all worth it . hope this helps. and good luck and i wish u well what ever u decide. xx
I never wanted to find out and it didn%26#039;t make a bit of difference to my planning - I picked a boy%26#039;s name and a girl%26#039;s name, decorated in a neutral style, bought a grey buggy and lots of plain white babygro%26#039;s. I had 2 children (both boys) and never considered finding out the sex, and if I had another 10 children I wouldn%26#039;t find out either. The moment of my children being born and hugging their little naked bodies, not knowing what sex and not caring either because they were my perfect babies...I wouldn%26#039;t miss that for the world.
To me, finding out is all about practicalities, its about what colour to paint the nursery - it doesn%26#039;t have to be pink or blue.
JMO, seems like most people do find out these days so I%26#039;m probably in a minority.
Hi %26#039;Kiddo%26#039;! :-)
I think you%26#039;ve just posted one of the most important questions any mum and/or dad-to-be could ask themselves - should we find out or go 谩u natur茅l?
While most couples cant wait to find out, its becoming an increasingly popular trend to just wait and see %26#039;what pops out%26#039;.
I personally, found out at my 12 week ultrasound that I was having a little girl. I thought that was fantastic, as I%26#039;d always wanted a little girl to dress-up and play Barbies with! Finding out that early, also gave us another 6 and a half months time to prepare her nursery, and buy her clothes. I personally am NOT a big fan of unisex clothes, so I would have been DEVISTATED if I had have bought the wrong coloured outfits!
Finding out that we were having a little girl, also gave us enough time to paint her whole room %26#039;fizzy%26#039; pink, buy about 250 pink, red, purple, etc. outfits before her birth, buy her a pink pram (I know - we might sound a little extreme here, but wait till you see it!!), buy her pink towels and we even knew to buy nappies for little girls.
See, if you dont find out the gender of your baby, how would you have possibly known to do all that? Personally, I think her room has become one of the most gorgeous rooms in the house - its so colourful, and there is a great atmosphere in there (until she starts screeching haha)...
NOW TO THE OTHER OPINION - It is of course every couples right not to find out if they are having a boy or a girl, if they do not wish to know.
My husband and I have discussed having another baby in that past, and we have made an oath to go to the other %26#039;extreme%26#039; with this next baby - we dont want to know if we%26#039;re having a boy or a girl, and instead of having another hospital birth, we%26#039;ve already made contact with a group of home-based midwives to have the baby in the bathtub at home! Pricey, but not too expensive to really understand and fully be able to witness childbirth without drugs or pain-killers, in the comfort of your own home!
So Kiddo, its really is up to you. Why dont you let yourself be suprised this time? Then you can even make a bet with your hubby to see if his pick was right or not... :-)
Good luck Kiddo!
I think it%26#039;s good to know because you can plan better. On the other hand, people can be superstitious about knowing as if the pregnancy does not come to full term or there%26#039;s an issue at the birth, you are already bonded with the child as an unique being, with names, outfits and all the associated paraphernalia. I can see both sides.
I understand your dilemma, but my husband and I chose to wait in finding out the sex of our first child, and it was such a great surprise in the end that it was so worth it!! I would TOTALLY recommend keeping it a surprise. Of course you want to plan a little bit, but maybe you can decorate in something semi-neutral (animals, perhaps?) and you can always buy two outfits to bring him/her home in! Buy one boy outfit and one girl outfit. You obviously won%26#039;t use one, but you could save it for a potential next baby or give it away to someone else. I say - wait. Its really exciting, the anticipation! Now I am pregnant again, and we are saving this one for a surprise, as well!! Good luck!
I didn%26#039;t wait, and I have no regrets.
There is joy and surprise at the MOMENT you find out the gender. To me, it didn%26#039;t matter if it was at the ultrasound table, or the labor table.
i didn%26#039;t have to find out. i knew the moment the test came back pos. that i was having a boy. my first AS confirmed it. as for as finding out or not is up to you. if you want to wait then just buy things that can be used for a boy or a girl. that way your covered either way. good luck and congrats.
This is totally a matter of personal ethics, taste and choice.
There are some boutique and shops that you can go in and pick out an outfit either for the girl or boy. You prepay a certain amount of money, or have them bill you for it. When you have the baby, the doctor%26#039;s office calls the boutique and they ship it to the hospital. That%26#039;s available in Louisiana anyways.
I thihk it%26#039;s better to know in advance. That way you are already calling the baby by it%26#039;s name and bonding with it. Not knowing isn%26#039;t going to change the gender. Also it makes it easier for friends and family to pick out the right presents so you don%26#039;t to worry about returning items. After all, the baby is who he or she is from conception, not birth.
Not knowing the baby%26#039;s gender won%26#039;t dapple your excitement of the new baby. Go ahead and go wild with your little girl%26#039;s room. I mean, after all, does gender honestly matter? You have so many more surprises, such as eye color, size, and above all, your little girl%26#039;s personality.
no
on the plus side you can get everything ready for the baby on the minus side the surprise can be very nice
i found out at 19 weeks. I couldnt wait, i dont regret it...cause now i can pick things out for my baby GIRL. =]
For those of you who waited...Did you ever want to change your mind and find out to make planning easier? How did you make it thru without finding out??
For those of you who didn%26#039;t find out, but then later changed your mind and found out...at what point?
I am having mixed thoughts this time about finding out. I don%26#039;t want to know b/c it really doesn%26#039;t matter, but at the same time I want to know so that I can have the perfect coming home outfit and everything already set up??
Baby Gender? Find out or no...see details please, I want both sides?
Ok I will give both sides because I have just found out that we are expecting a baby girl that I am so excited about. However, it is quite strange because I kind of think what is there to tell people after she is born? Her weight not quite the same as saying wow it%26#039;s a lovely little girl or boy. I am not regretting it but perhaps next time I wouldn%26#039;t find out. It is a tough decision that initially can be made so quick. However, I can get a little organised now but then it would serve me right if the sonographer was wrong haha. Good luck with everything.
Baby Gender? Find out or no...see details please, I want both sides?
I%26#039;ve had 2 kids and I%26#039;ve done both...with my first one I waited, and I just got everything in yellows, mint green, red, stuff like that. Things that would fit both a girl and a boy. Turns out I had a boy, and let me tell you, I seriously wish that I would have found out, cause for like the first 5 months, when he was in yellow and mint green clothes and blankets, all i got were people telling me what a beautiful daughter I had. So on my second pregnancy as soon as I knew I could find out the sex I did. And it was a girl, and this was much easier, because I was able to plan everything, she had the prettiest dress to come home in, a gorgeous princess themed room, and at the baby shower, everyone knew I was having a girl so I got so many things that a little girl would want. So my thought is to find out! But thats just me :)
We found out in August that we%26#039;re expecting a boy in January. It seemed like an eternity before we could find out, so I can%26#039;t imagine going until my due date without knowing what the baby is. I promise you, you won%26#039;t be less excited just because you find out early. We%26#039;ve already named him and call him by that name when we talk to him. People are making things for him with his name on them, such as a baby blanket with his name embroidered on. We REALLY wanted a boy, and if it had been a girl then I think I would%26#039;ve needed that extra time to prepare myself mentally! (I%26#039;d be ok with the next one being a girl.)
It really is a personal choice, so good luck to you and congrats!
You already answered your question. Reread your question and you will see that you are leaning towards going ahead to know the baby%26#039;s sex. You are not doing it only because of your husband%26#039;s preferences. Convince him that you both don%26#039;t have to be hurrying to get stuff for the baby when he or she is born. You don%26#039;t want your baby to be wearing a whole bunch of unisex clothing where people often make the mistake to think it%26#039;s a boy when it%26#039;s a girl and vice versa.
Its a girl. Don%26#039;t question it.
With our first child we didn%26#039;t find out and it was kind of nice to be suprised, but with our next two we found out because one we really wanted to know and also since we already had one child we wanted to know so we could save money by saving our first child%26#039;s things ( our first was a girl and so was our second, so we didn%26#039;t get rid of her clothes and all the girly stuff)
Our third was a boy so we could prepare and also it is easier choosing names. I don%26#039;t really see the big deal in finding out, it%26#039;s not as if it is some kind of sin to find out, whatever both parents agree on.
Our friends had the ultrasound tech put the sex of the baby on a piece of paper in an envelope and give it to them and they opened it on Christmas, I thought that was kind of cool.
I agree with you...I found out with both of my kids...I also wanted to have them in the perfect outfit coming home (and for their first picture) and yes, having everything already set up made it alot easier :)
I do know that even if you are told it is never 100%...
I did not find out. We chose not to. Because, as you said - it didn%26#039;t matter. As it turns out, the time spent being pregnant and wondering was small compared to the time since our children have been with us (they are grown now). So, it is a matter of relevance. Six months of wondering verses 25 years of knowing........not such a big deal. As for the perfect coming home outfit.......there are plenty that are gender neutral.
I hope I%26#039;ve helped you.
no
My sister-in-law found out at her 4 month appointment and immediately regretted it. She just wishes it had been a surprise.
A pregnant coworker didn%26#039;t find out and therefore didn%26#039;t get many clothes items since no one knew what she was having. She got lots of junk like hangers, wipes, etc.
I%26#039;d want to know because I%26#039;ve heard it helps you bond with the baby, when you know what sex it is and what the name will be. Not to mention the practicality of it - planning ahead, etc.
We can%26#039;t wait to find out the %26quot;flavor%26quot; of our baby! My reason is that I%26#039;m just curious. My husband wants to know so that he can plan better. I think it%26#039;s part of the fun of having a baby... More power to those who can last 9 months without knowing!
I didn%26#039;t find out with my first child, but with the second I did because I wanted to know if I should be buying things in different colors.
Personally I wish I wouldn%26#039;t have found- out it%26#039;s the element of surprise and you can%26#039;t get that back.
10 years from now will you care or even remember what you took them home in without looking at a picture. I just see that beautiful face with both of them and not the clothes.
I know how you feel.. I changed my mind what seemed like a 100 times..I wanted to know..then I didn%26#039;t want to know. Well when the time came when I was able to find out, I couldn%26#039;t! Baby%26#039;s feet were crossed! I was a little sad, but then I thought well maybe she wants me to wait! So the next time I had an ultrasound I STILL couldn%26#039;t see. My husband really wanted to know too. But then the next time I had an ultrasound I couldn%26#039;t wait to find out and now I%26#039;m having a girl.. I am SOO happy that I found out because I have the cutest girly outfits and perfect outfit to take her home in. I%26#039;m not into the green and yellows so in the end I%26#039;m very glad I found out.
I%26#039;m having a c-section on Saturday because she is still breech!
good luck and congrats on your pregnancy
I found out the sex of my baby. It was definitely easier for me so that I could plan everything and have all of the girly things for her before she was born. I didn%26#039;t really think, being a single mom, that I would have time after she was born to shop for gender specific items.
The baby isn%26#039;t really going to care what colors they have in their nursery, etc. The whole %26#039;having to have gender appropriate colors%26#039; is solely for parents. I%26#039;ve never had a child, but... All I can say is get neutral clothes, greens, oranges, reds, etc, and don%26#039;t worry, because at the rate your baby will grow you%26#039;ll have to get all new clothes in a few months anyway. =) Good luck!!
if you know what the baby is you can buy cute little blue or pink outfits instead of gender neutral stuff. you can plan baby showers and the nursery so much easier. there is so many more suprises and anticipations with the birth of your baby besides its gender and its just as exciting when your getting the ultrasound to find out the sex as it is to find out at birth. so you should make life a little easier on yourself this time.
Just wait
hi it does not realy matter as long as u have a beautiful baby at the end thats all that matters.it is nice to find out the sex , but is also nice to have a surprise, i have 3 kids and found out the sex off all of them which is nice as u can get the colours u want then and plan more, but i do wish sometimes that i had not found out the sex so i would off had the surprise, but i wouldnt say its easy not knowing its very hard esp now they have made it so easy for u to find out the sex without paying for it. i say if u can ride it out and get that extra special surprise at the end as its all worth it . hope this helps. and good luck and i wish u well what ever u decide. xx
I never wanted to find out and it didn%26#039;t make a bit of difference to my planning - I picked a boy%26#039;s name and a girl%26#039;s name, decorated in a neutral style, bought a grey buggy and lots of plain white babygro%26#039;s. I had 2 children (both boys) and never considered finding out the sex, and if I had another 10 children I wouldn%26#039;t find out either. The moment of my children being born and hugging their little naked bodies, not knowing what sex and not caring either because they were my perfect babies...I wouldn%26#039;t miss that for the world.
To me, finding out is all about practicalities, its about what colour to paint the nursery - it doesn%26#039;t have to be pink or blue.
JMO, seems like most people do find out these days so I%26#039;m probably in a minority.
Hi %26#039;Kiddo%26#039;! :-)
I think you%26#039;ve just posted one of the most important questions any mum and/or dad-to-be could ask themselves - should we find out or go 谩u natur茅l?
While most couples cant wait to find out, its becoming an increasingly popular trend to just wait and see %26#039;what pops out%26#039;.
I personally, found out at my 12 week ultrasound that I was having a little girl. I thought that was fantastic, as I%26#039;d always wanted a little girl to dress-up and play Barbies with! Finding out that early, also gave us another 6 and a half months time to prepare her nursery, and buy her clothes. I personally am NOT a big fan of unisex clothes, so I would have been DEVISTATED if I had have bought the wrong coloured outfits!
Finding out that we were having a little girl, also gave us enough time to paint her whole room %26#039;fizzy%26#039; pink, buy about 250 pink, red, purple, etc. outfits before her birth, buy her a pink pram (I know - we might sound a little extreme here, but wait till you see it!!), buy her pink towels and we even knew to buy nappies for little girls.
See, if you dont find out the gender of your baby, how would you have possibly known to do all that? Personally, I think her room has become one of the most gorgeous rooms in the house - its so colourful, and there is a great atmosphere in there (until she starts screeching haha)...
NOW TO THE OTHER OPINION - It is of course every couples right not to find out if they are having a boy or a girl, if they do not wish to know.
My husband and I have discussed having another baby in that past, and we have made an oath to go to the other %26#039;extreme%26#039; with this next baby - we dont want to know if we%26#039;re having a boy or a girl, and instead of having another hospital birth, we%26#039;ve already made contact with a group of home-based midwives to have the baby in the bathtub at home! Pricey, but not too expensive to really understand and fully be able to witness childbirth without drugs or pain-killers, in the comfort of your own home!
So Kiddo, its really is up to you. Why dont you let yourself be suprised this time? Then you can even make a bet with your hubby to see if his pick was right or not... :-)
Good luck Kiddo!
I think it%26#039;s good to know because you can plan better. On the other hand, people can be superstitious about knowing as if the pregnancy does not come to full term or there%26#039;s an issue at the birth, you are already bonded with the child as an unique being, with names, outfits and all the associated paraphernalia. I can see both sides.
I understand your dilemma, but my husband and I chose to wait in finding out the sex of our first child, and it was such a great surprise in the end that it was so worth it!! I would TOTALLY recommend keeping it a surprise. Of course you want to plan a little bit, but maybe you can decorate in something semi-neutral (animals, perhaps?) and you can always buy two outfits to bring him/her home in! Buy one boy outfit and one girl outfit. You obviously won%26#039;t use one, but you could save it for a potential next baby or give it away to someone else. I say - wait. Its really exciting, the anticipation! Now I am pregnant again, and we are saving this one for a surprise, as well!! Good luck!
I didn%26#039;t wait, and I have no regrets.
There is joy and surprise at the MOMENT you find out the gender. To me, it didn%26#039;t matter if it was at the ultrasound table, or the labor table.
i didn%26#039;t have to find out. i knew the moment the test came back pos. that i was having a boy. my first AS confirmed it. as for as finding out or not is up to you. if you want to wait then just buy things that can be used for a boy or a girl. that way your covered either way. good luck and congrats.
This is totally a matter of personal ethics, taste and choice.
There are some boutique and shops that you can go in and pick out an outfit either for the girl or boy. You prepay a certain amount of money, or have them bill you for it. When you have the baby, the doctor%26#039;s office calls the boutique and they ship it to the hospital. That%26#039;s available in Louisiana anyways.
I thihk it%26#039;s better to know in advance. That way you are already calling the baby by it%26#039;s name and bonding with it. Not knowing isn%26#039;t going to change the gender. Also it makes it easier for friends and family to pick out the right presents so you don%26#039;t to worry about returning items. After all, the baby is who he or she is from conception, not birth.
Not knowing the baby%26#039;s gender won%26#039;t dapple your excitement of the new baby. Go ahead and go wild with your little girl%26#039;s room. I mean, after all, does gender honestly matter? You have so many more surprises, such as eye color, size, and above all, your little girl%26#039;s personality.
no
on the plus side you can get everything ready for the baby on the minus side the surprise can be very nice
i found out at 19 weeks. I couldnt wait, i dont regret it...cause now i can pick things out for my baby GIRL. =]
As a native English speaker, how did learning Japanese effect your identity? would you like to ask?
As an individual, we have different factors that make up our identity: personality, age, gender, social networks, social status, etc. So when learning Japanese, whether in Australia, or in Japan, how did your identity change? Do you now have 2 identities in your opinion? How were you treated as a foreigner: do native speakers help you in speech, or do they watch you struggle?
As a native English speaker, how did learning Japanese effect your identity? would you like to ask?
For me, personally, I feel that learning Japanese has changed my identity a great deal. Keep in mind that I learnt Japanese while living here, so it was not only the language, but also the body language and customs that affected me.
I feel, and this is always confirmed when I go home, that I've become much quieter as a person. I'm more prone to leaving longer gaps in conversation as I let everyone involved think about what's being said. I'm also far less likely to have heated debates (much to my debate-loving husband's despair), as I just find that direct confrontation is disagreeable to me now. My parents have found this quite disturbing because I used to be a pretty angry teenager (weren't we all?). In essence, now if I don't have something nice to say, I generally don't say anything.
I know that this one is going to get me a ton of thumbs down, but in Japan I've learnt a lot about hierarchy and knowing one's place. As an ALT I am on the bottom of the ladder in my office's hierarchy. At first I thought that this was great because I wasn't responsible for anything, but after a while, I noticed that my supervisor would get chewed out whenever I messed something up. This taught me that I am still responsible for my actions, and that I should always do my best so that my supervisor and fellow workers can be proud of me. I've learnt a lot about gratitude and giving thanks while here in Japan. Saying %26quot;oskaresamadeshita%26quot; to your work-mates and having it said to you almost daily is very re-affirming. How often do we tell each other %26quot;Thank you for all your hard work%26quot; in Western countries?
As for Japanese assistance, my fellow workers have always gone out of their way to help me. At first it was just other English teachers who could understand what I needed, but eventually the Japanese language teachers and other staff all pitched in. They've learnt over time that I'm a visual learner and I don't remember stuff that they've tld me the first time. Now they always write things down for me so I can remember. Also, in my first few years they were very tolerant of my terrible Japanese. Lately however, they have begun to be very fussy of how I use Japanese. My co-worker and best friend explained that they understand that I have the basics, so now they are trying to teach me how and when to use proper politeness levels and other situational phrases.
I hope that helps?
As a native English speaker, how did learning Japanese effect your identity? would you like to ask?
Learning the langauge did change my identity slightly. The native did help and seldom watch me struggle.
Learning Japanese and living like a Japanese has not just changed my life, it molded my life! I have one identity and the foreign/Japanese parts are all rolled up together!
See those negative ratings? ^
Japanophiles.
Your identity doesn't change too much - other people will percieve you as either a loser or just someone who knows a foreign language.
This is Hilarius.
Americans/Australians meeting someone with bilingual abilities: Is he like someone from Mars? Is he schizophrenic? Will he kill all of us while we sleep?
It doesn't really change your identity.
Now, I'm chinese but my first language (sort of) was English.
Native speakers do help me alot. :)
As a native English speaker, how did learning Japanese effect your identity? would you like to ask?
For me, personally, I feel that learning Japanese has changed my identity a great deal. Keep in mind that I learnt Japanese while living here, so it was not only the language, but also the body language and customs that affected me.
I feel, and this is always confirmed when I go home, that I've become much quieter as a person. I'm more prone to leaving longer gaps in conversation as I let everyone involved think about what's being said. I'm also far less likely to have heated debates (much to my debate-loving husband's despair), as I just find that direct confrontation is disagreeable to me now. My parents have found this quite disturbing because I used to be a pretty angry teenager (weren't we all?). In essence, now if I don't have something nice to say, I generally don't say anything.
I know that this one is going to get me a ton of thumbs down, but in Japan I've learnt a lot about hierarchy and knowing one's place. As an ALT I am on the bottom of the ladder in my office's hierarchy. At first I thought that this was great because I wasn't responsible for anything, but after a while, I noticed that my supervisor would get chewed out whenever I messed something up. This taught me that I am still responsible for my actions, and that I should always do my best so that my supervisor and fellow workers can be proud of me. I've learnt a lot about gratitude and giving thanks while here in Japan. Saying %26quot;oskaresamadeshita%26quot; to your work-mates and having it said to you almost daily is very re-affirming. How often do we tell each other %26quot;Thank you for all your hard work%26quot; in Western countries?
As for Japanese assistance, my fellow workers have always gone out of their way to help me. At first it was just other English teachers who could understand what I needed, but eventually the Japanese language teachers and other staff all pitched in. They've learnt over time that I'm a visual learner and I don't remember stuff that they've tld me the first time. Now they always write things down for me so I can remember. Also, in my first few years they were very tolerant of my terrible Japanese. Lately however, they have begun to be very fussy of how I use Japanese. My co-worker and best friend explained that they understand that I have the basics, so now they are trying to teach me how and when to use proper politeness levels and other situational phrases.
I hope that helps?
As a native English speaker, how did learning Japanese effect your identity? would you like to ask?
Learning the langauge did change my identity slightly. The native did help and seldom watch me struggle.
Learning Japanese and living like a Japanese has not just changed my life, it molded my life! I have one identity and the foreign/Japanese parts are all rolled up together!
See those negative ratings? ^
Japanophiles.
Your identity doesn't change too much - other people will percieve you as either a loser or just someone who knows a foreign language.
This is Hilarius.
Americans/Australians meeting someone with bilingual abilities: Is he like someone from Mars? Is he schizophrenic? Will he kill all of us while we sleep?
It doesn't really change your identity.
Now, I'm chinese but my first language (sort of) was English.
Native speakers do help me alot. :)
When online, why do people pretend they're the other gender?
and pretend they're another race, or lie about age height, I've seen many accounts pretending to be the other gender or say they're a child, like their questions didn't match their profile etc. I think it's okay to change something little like your name to be safe, changing gender, age or race is creepy to me. Why do people do this online and be fake, does anyone agree that this is creepy?
And how come some people will believe Anything people say here, when it's online?
When online, why do people pretend they're the other gender?
I think it is creepy for an adult to pretend to be a child - As that is a sinister motive. That is a form of grooming and should really be reported.
Otherwise everyone here is blind about other people- which means you are judged on your answers not on what you look like or who you are.
I have not given any details about myself and I am amazed at the assumptions people make. The whole point of being online is that you are truly yourself, not a stereotype or a perception.
It possibly may irritate people who make judgements on others because their age, gender, race, religion because they can't put you in a category. I think you should view it as a test of your personality and nothing else.
I have a friend who refuses to answer questions as she always uses her height ( very tiny) to persuade people to see things her way.
That has been removed from her and guess what ....she is powerless on line. She can't manipulate or persuade.
If you are a honest open person, objective and sagacious individual you should be able to communicate with anybody.
If someone tells me they are a boy and they are really a girl - so what I get on with both sexes.
Someone wrote a letter about her daughter and I answered it. It was obviously a teenage girl writing it about herself I knew and answered the question. I confronted her about her age due to subject matter.
She confessed to being fourteen and agreed to tell her mother her problems.That was different, but if was a trivial subject - i couldn't care less who she was.
I don't care if you are an eighty year old man or a fourteen year old girl.
I don't judge people by their exterior I just answer questions.
Someone said %26quot; Everyone says you shouldn't judge a book by it's cover, but when I go to the library that is the first thing I do%26quot;.
I think it is good for people to see if they are treated the same by others when you remove the exterior.
If people are as scrupulous, moral, and as open as they say they are - free from prejudice and bigotry - they should be able to get on with old and young alike. No-one should have a problem %26quot;speaking blind%26quot;
If you are a person who believes you can judge people on appearance - it must be a nightmare as you cannot use your stereotypes to fit people into boxes. You also cannot discriminate successfully.
I take the internet with a pinch of salt, but I notice that people - especially the ones that seem younger are fairly credulous about the validity of the internet. They believe once it is written it is true.
This is why Wikipedia is not used in Colleges as valid source of research because anyone can write on the pages. I hear young people quoting sites that look as if a ten year old has written them as a joke - for valid sources of research.
The internet should be no problem if people are as wise, objective and discerning as they say they are on their resumes - unless they are lying!
I suppose if it bothers you - you should only speak to people that you can see. I am not prejudiced in anyway of anybody and anything. So I don't have to see what anybody looks like to speak to them. A bright 16 year old is more thought provoking than a bright twenty year old.
I agree with one of the answerers I am more irritated by people pretending to be intelligent and writing ludicrous answers than someone lying about their age.
I don't hate anyone in society and I don't restrict myself to talking to people who I believe look like me, live in the same country or are my age. I know some people do , but as I said they should just meet people face to face if appearance is so important.
When online, why do people pretend they're the other gender?
Well, because for some people the internet is the only place where you get to be somebody who you always wanted to be and pass as it and have nobody question you.
Maby there gay
i do agree but i disagree too. i mean its wrong, but maybe they're trying to protect themselves from crazy people. it is creepy.
The internet is a huge role-play game.
By far the most common things people pretend they are on the internet is knowledgeable and intelligent.
I don't lie and yes i think its creepy
I lie about my weight.
To answer your first question:
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The second question:
It's because there's no way to know for sure. I guess people just trust them because they want to assume that it's true.
I dunno, Butch, how come a 50 year guy like you wants to gab with teenagers? The interweb is a land of make believe!:)
well some do it to troll.theres plenty of people that do it on this section
Well, I have been talking in a chat room for about a year and a half. And I have seen a lot of this myself. My age on my profile is older than my actual age for two reasons: 1) So people take me seriously. 2) It's safer. Most people do it for similar reasons.
Dharma Nature hit the nail on the head. The internet is a game, a place to be whoever you want to be. I'm a white guy IRL, but I play a chick on World of Warcraft and a black guy on Rock Band. It's all just for fun.
Some people find it funny.
Once in a while ill go on habbo and pretend im a different race, or age. And when people believe me or something, idk i just think its kinda funny.
When it comes to age, some people who are like 10 online, and want to get an 'internet boyfriend' will pretend they are older like 17 or so, hoping they get a better chance.
And the other way around, people who are like 20, tell people they are younger so the people theyre talking to dont think 'omg creep, what a pedo, etc'
I've seen people on here say they're guys in real life but they have a female avatar. It's strange to me, maybe they're just living out their fantasy online. Either that or they wanna troll. I have learned that people on the net aren't always who they say they are, so I tend to be skeptical nowadays. They could be predators, you never know who's behind the computer screen.
And how come some people will believe Anything people say here, when it's online?
When online, why do people pretend they're the other gender?
I think it is creepy for an adult to pretend to be a child - As that is a sinister motive. That is a form of grooming and should really be reported.
Otherwise everyone here is blind about other people- which means you are judged on your answers not on what you look like or who you are.
I have not given any details about myself and I am amazed at the assumptions people make. The whole point of being online is that you are truly yourself, not a stereotype or a perception.
It possibly may irritate people who make judgements on others because their age, gender, race, religion because they can't put you in a category. I think you should view it as a test of your personality and nothing else.
I have a friend who refuses to answer questions as she always uses her height ( very tiny) to persuade people to see things her way.
That has been removed from her and guess what ....she is powerless on line. She can't manipulate or persuade.
If you are a honest open person, objective and sagacious individual you should be able to communicate with anybody.
If someone tells me they are a boy and they are really a girl - so what I get on with both sexes.
Someone wrote a letter about her daughter and I answered it. It was obviously a teenage girl writing it about herself I knew and answered the question. I confronted her about her age due to subject matter.
She confessed to being fourteen and agreed to tell her mother her problems.That was different, but if was a trivial subject - i couldn't care less who she was.
I don't care if you are an eighty year old man or a fourteen year old girl.
I don't judge people by their exterior I just answer questions.
Someone said %26quot; Everyone says you shouldn't judge a book by it's cover, but when I go to the library that is the first thing I do%26quot;.
I think it is good for people to see if they are treated the same by others when you remove the exterior.
If people are as scrupulous, moral, and as open as they say they are - free from prejudice and bigotry - they should be able to get on with old and young alike. No-one should have a problem %26quot;speaking blind%26quot;
If you are a person who believes you can judge people on appearance - it must be a nightmare as you cannot use your stereotypes to fit people into boxes. You also cannot discriminate successfully.
I take the internet with a pinch of salt, but I notice that people - especially the ones that seem younger are fairly credulous about the validity of the internet. They believe once it is written it is true.
This is why Wikipedia is not used in Colleges as valid source of research because anyone can write on the pages. I hear young people quoting sites that look as if a ten year old has written them as a joke - for valid sources of research.
The internet should be no problem if people are as wise, objective and discerning as they say they are on their resumes - unless they are lying!
I suppose if it bothers you - you should only speak to people that you can see. I am not prejudiced in anyway of anybody and anything. So I don't have to see what anybody looks like to speak to them. A bright 16 year old is more thought provoking than a bright twenty year old.
I agree with one of the answerers I am more irritated by people pretending to be intelligent and writing ludicrous answers than someone lying about their age.
I don't hate anyone in society and I don't restrict myself to talking to people who I believe look like me, live in the same country or are my age. I know some people do , but as I said they should just meet people face to face if appearance is so important.
When online, why do people pretend they're the other gender?
Well, because for some people the internet is the only place where you get to be somebody who you always wanted to be and pass as it and have nobody question you.
Maby there gay
i do agree but i disagree too. i mean its wrong, but maybe they're trying to protect themselves from crazy people. it is creepy.
The internet is a huge role-play game.
By far the most common things people pretend they are on the internet is knowledgeable and intelligent.
I don't lie and yes i think its creepy
I lie about my weight.
To answer your first question:
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The second question:
It's because there's no way to know for sure. I guess people just trust them because they want to assume that it's true.
I dunno, Butch, how come a 50 year guy like you wants to gab with teenagers? The interweb is a land of make believe!:)
well some do it to troll.theres plenty of people that do it on this section
Well, I have been talking in a chat room for about a year and a half. And I have seen a lot of this myself. My age on my profile is older than my actual age for two reasons: 1) So people take me seriously. 2) It's safer. Most people do it for similar reasons.
Dharma Nature hit the nail on the head. The internet is a game, a place to be whoever you want to be. I'm a white guy IRL, but I play a chick on World of Warcraft and a black guy on Rock Band. It's all just for fun.
Some people find it funny.
Once in a while ill go on habbo and pretend im a different race, or age. And when people believe me or something, idk i just think its kinda funny.
When it comes to age, some people who are like 10 online, and want to get an 'internet boyfriend' will pretend they are older like 17 or so, hoping they get a better chance.
And the other way around, people who are like 20, tell people they are younger so the people theyre talking to dont think 'omg creep, what a pedo, etc'
I've seen people on here say they're guys in real life but they have a female avatar. It's strange to me, maybe they're just living out their fantasy online. Either that or they wanna troll. I have learned that people on the net aren't always who they say they are, so I tend to be skeptical nowadays. They could be predators, you never know who's behind the computer screen.
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The teenage years are your hardest years of your life. At this point of time, it is where you learn the most about youself and truly discover who you really are. As one gets a wrong impression about their identity, their whole future is on the line. It is very easy to make a wrong choice, especially if it involves your future directly. Deciding that you are attracted to the same gender or becoming gay would be one of those fatal mistakes.
There are many types of feelings. Some feelings are inborn. Others are from the enviornment and how you are raised. All of us have some feelings we didn’t choose, but we still have the power to resist and reform them. As you’re discovering, you have had some feelings towards others of the same gender. What you’re feeling is not bad or wrong. The wrong thing is yeilding to those feelings. Everyone is tempted to do some things that aren’t right. That’s not unique. Some people just have to be temped with certain things that others don’t have to be. If we give in to those temptations, they will increase in power and become even harder to resist.
You may feel that these urges to become a homosexual are coming without your power. You may also feel that you have no control over them and that is who you are supposed to be. Yes, those feelings are coming involuntarily, but they don’t need to be acted upon. Our society has the notion that merely because one has an inclination to do something, that it has to be carried out and those urges can’t be avoided. The truth is, we can avoid and stop those feelings. We do have the power to control our behavior.
Here is a young gay man that may change your outlook on deciding to be gay. This narration is not only about this man’s expereience, but is told by him:
“My name is Eric and I am a homosexual, or simply put, gay. A few years ago, I wanted to be with a partner. I wanted another gay man to spend my life with. Since marriage isn’t an option (unless we go to California), I wanted someone who would be willing to live with me. Soon after this decision, I found a great gay man named James. He wasn’t all that I was looking for, but he was wonderful anyway. A couple of months passed and James just wasn’t working out with me. We fought a lot, he was negative all the time, he didn’t know how to cook and wasn’t even willing to learn, and he was constantly telling me my faults. He soon moved out and I became single again. Now, a year later, a single ‘straight’ woman has moved into the apartment next to mine. Ashley, as this was her name, is one of the best girls I have ever met. She has so much more to offer than James did! By meeting Ashley, it made me realize that I didn’t want to become gay at all. It occurred to me that there is more to ‘choose from’ in women than there is in gay men. I have more of a variety and a better chance I’ll find a more rewarding relationship. After meeting Ashley, I decided to no longer be gay. As of a year and half, Ashley and I are happily married and have a beautiful little baby girl.”
By understanding these important issues about being gay, one really sees the advantages of being “straight”. When picking an eternal companion there are more choices. In relation to the numbers of women there are to gay men, there are more women to pick from. If you have more women, there is more of a chance to find the “perfect partner” that is just right for you.
The homosexual thoughts and feelings you are experiencing are not good to have. They shoud be controlled and eliminated. By yielding to these thoughts and feelings, you will have consequences. You will forever look at a male and have lustful thoughts if they are not controlled.
If you do decide to “become gay”, some things that people say will have a profound effect on you. They will say words that people use to put down others that are related to gay issues. By being gay, these words will become even more offencive to you.
Becoming gay also means that you will most likely find another gay partner. You could then decide to get married in California where gay marriages are legalized. You should know now that that would not be a wise decision in the first place. Marriage should not be viewed as a therapeudic step to solve problems such as homosexual inclinations or practices. People with these feelings cannot enter marriage in a healthy relationship.
Another reason for not becoming gay is missing the oppourtunity to have natural children. As you well know, if you are a homosexual you can’t have children with your same sex. You will be missing the great joy and satisfaction of having a baby that is you and your wife’s. There is something special in having a child. Yes, you can adopt children, but the feeling of love and compassion that is there when you have your own child will not be the same.
The wisest for you, who is afflicted with same gender attraction, is to strive to extend your horizon beyond just your sexual or gender orientation.
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It's not a choice. Not a conscious decision. You are either gay or your not. You can still be happy either way. No one %26quot;chooses%26quot; their sexual orientation. No one can fake it either.
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It's been scientifically proven that being gay is something you are born with. The gay male brain has the same function as a female brain. Just about. It's stupid how people can't just accept the fact that people are gay and they are allowed the same choices in life as well as the same happinessshampoos for curly hair celebrities myspace
There are many types of feelings. Some feelings are inborn. Others are from the enviornment and how you are raised. All of us have some feelings we didn’t choose, but we still have the power to resist and reform them. As you’re discovering, you have had some feelings towards others of the same gender. What you’re feeling is not bad or wrong. The wrong thing is yeilding to those feelings. Everyone is tempted to do some things that aren’t right. That’s not unique. Some people just have to be temped with certain things that others don’t have to be. If we give in to those temptations, they will increase in power and become even harder to resist.
You may feel that these urges to become a homosexual are coming without your power. You may also feel that you have no control over them and that is who you are supposed to be. Yes, those feelings are coming involuntarily, but they don’t need to be acted upon. Our society has the notion that merely because one has an inclination to do something, that it has to be carried out and those urges can’t be avoided. The truth is, we can avoid and stop those feelings. We do have the power to control our behavior.
Here is a young gay man that may change your outlook on deciding to be gay. This narration is not only about this man’s expereience, but is told by him:
“My name is Eric and I am a homosexual, or simply put, gay. A few years ago, I wanted to be with a partner. I wanted another gay man to spend my life with. Since marriage isn’t an option (unless we go to California), I wanted someone who would be willing to live with me. Soon after this decision, I found a great gay man named James. He wasn’t all that I was looking for, but he was wonderful anyway. A couple of months passed and James just wasn’t working out with me. We fought a lot, he was negative all the time, he didn’t know how to cook and wasn’t even willing to learn, and he was constantly telling me my faults. He soon moved out and I became single again. Now, a year later, a single ‘straight’ woman has moved into the apartment next to mine. Ashley, as this was her name, is one of the best girls I have ever met. She has so much more to offer than James did! By meeting Ashley, it made me realize that I didn’t want to become gay at all. It occurred to me that there is more to ‘choose from’ in women than there is in gay men. I have more of a variety and a better chance I’ll find a more rewarding relationship. After meeting Ashley, I decided to no longer be gay. As of a year and half, Ashley and I are happily married and have a beautiful little baby girl.”
By understanding these important issues about being gay, one really sees the advantages of being “straight”. When picking an eternal companion there are more choices. In relation to the numbers of women there are to gay men, there are more women to pick from. If you have more women, there is more of a chance to find the “perfect partner” that is just right for you.
The homosexual thoughts and feelings you are experiencing are not good to have. They shoud be controlled and eliminated. By yielding to these thoughts and feelings, you will have consequences. You will forever look at a male and have lustful thoughts if they are not controlled.
If you do decide to “become gay”, some things that people say will have a profound effect on you. They will say words that people use to put down others that are related to gay issues. By being gay, these words will become even more offencive to you.
Becoming gay also means that you will most likely find another gay partner. You could then decide to get married in California where gay marriages are legalized. You should know now that that would not be a wise decision in the first place. Marriage should not be viewed as a therapeudic step to solve problems such as homosexual inclinations or practices. People with these feelings cannot enter marriage in a healthy relationship.
Another reason for not becoming gay is missing the oppourtunity to have natural children. As you well know, if you are a homosexual you can’t have children with your same sex. You will be missing the great joy and satisfaction of having a baby that is you and your wife’s. There is something special in having a child. Yes, you can adopt children, but the feeling of love and compassion that is there when you have your own child will not be the same.
The wisest for you, who is afflicted with same gender attraction, is to strive to extend your horizon beyond just your sexual or gender orientation.
What are your opinions on this article about %26quot;Gay is wrong%26quot; ?
It's not a choice. Not a conscious decision. You are either gay or your not. You can still be happy either way. No one %26quot;chooses%26quot; their sexual orientation. No one can fake it either.
What are your opinions on this article about %26quot;Gay is wrong%26quot; ?
It's been scientifically proven that being gay is something you are born with. The gay male brain has the same function as a female brain. Just about. It's stupid how people can't just accept the fact that people are gay and they are allowed the same choices in life as well as the same happiness
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